I love my girlfriend – but she has a habit that drives me absolutely mental. What do I do?
A frustrated boyfriend is fed up with his girlfriend’s “quirky” habit that’s driving him up the wall.
The man, 26, has been dating his 24-year-old girlfriend for just over a year and says they are otherwise a perfect match.
But one thing drives him to the edge: her refusal to pronounce common words correctly, despite his repeated attempts to correct her.
“It’s not like she’s joking or trying to be funny. She really thinks she says it right,” he wrote on Reddit.
‘I’ve tried to correct her so many times, but it’s like it goes in one ear and out the other. In a few minutes she will say the wrong version again.’
While some people may let slip a minor mispronunciation, he says the issue has become “unbearable” as she repeatedly butchers even the simplest words.
“She says ‘Chick-fil-ee’ instead of ‘Chick-fil-A,’ ‘liberry’ instead of ‘library,’ and ‘cipatol’ instead of ‘capitol.’
He added: ‘She always says words wrong, mixes up letters or replaces vowels with other sounds because she likes them better that way.
“Sometimes it’s the same word, other times it feels like she decides a certain word doesn’t sound nice on a certain day.
A frustrated boyfriend is fed up with his girlfriend’s “quirky” habit that’s driving him up the wall
But where he really struggles is when she mispronounces things that are personally important to him, like his hometown.
“We’re in ‘Chiago’ instead of Chicago, where I grew up, and are now visiting my family. It’s like she doesn’t care,” he said angrily.
To make matters worse, his girlfriend is a highly educated woman studying for her master’s degree while working a job.
‘I don’t think it’s something to learn either. She does not have dyslexia or speech problems; she’s just lazy about it, at least that’s how it feels to me.
“She’s very smart, so I don’t understand why this is so hard,” he explained.
During their trip to Chicago for New Year’s, the girlfriend again mispronounced the city’s name – this time in front of his family.
Later, she did the same thing to his favorite restaurant, and he eventually snapped.
‘I lost my cool. I told her it’s frustrating that she can’t even try to get it right, especially when they are things that are important to me. I know I probably sounded harsh, but I was just so angry.”
To make matters worse, his girlfriend is a highly educated woman studying for her master’s degree while working a job
Now his girlfriend barely talks to him but is glued to her phone, and the man wonders if he overreacted.
“I feel like a jerk because when we talk it’s like I’m cursing at a little kid, not a 24-year-old woman who should know how to pronounce simple things by now.”
Many shared their thoughts about this online.
“You weren’t wrong when you corrected her pronunciation the first time. Maybe not even the second time.
“You’re wrong now because you kept bullying and bullying even after it became clear she wasn’t interested in your help,” one person said.
“If you don’t like the way she talks, let her go so she can find someone who does,” another added.
“Why would anyone care so much? And what if it’s not intentional? Not everyone will say words by the book,” one woman echoed.
“She does this for attention,” one man theorized.
One commenter said: ‘This would drive me crazy. Like you said, she’s not stupid, but she doesn’t seem to have a problem looking like that, especially around family.”