Embarrassed by his lack of experience in the bedroom, a 23-year-old boy lied to his girlfriend about being a virgin – something that could set him up for sexual dysfunction in the future.
The anonymous Reddit user posted in a thread titled “Am I Wrong,” explaining that he lied to a girl he is dating about being a virgin because he was ashamed and feeling has that being a virgin at his age is ‘pathetic’.
The average age at which men in the US have sex for the first time is 17, and while experts say there is no “normal” or “right” time to lose your virginity, they recognize the social pressures that come with sex and the desire to lose your virginity. seem experienced.
But it’s not just a shame that a Virgo can suffer from later in life.
Research has shown that the later someone has sex for the first time, the greater the risk of sexual problems.
Seth Eisenberg, CEO of the PAIRS Foundation, a nonprofit organization focused on promoting healthy relationships, previously told DailyMail.com that people who lose their virginity later in life may have more difficulty becoming aroused and having orgasms. experience as soon as they become sexually active.
And studies have shown that waiting too long to do the deed can lead to pent-up frustration, weak muscles and fear of failure, which can lead to erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation or the inability to orgasm.
A 23-year-old virgin has turned to the internet for help with his dilemma: should he tell his girlfriend or not?
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The Reddit user wrote that he met a 24-year-old medical student on the dating app Hinge and they went on several dates.
Luckily, he says she wants to “take it slow before sex,” but on their third date, the poster wrote, “she leaned into me and rubbed my thigh.” I know what that means.
“In my own fantasy world, I would have jumped at the opportunity.”
However, feeling self-conscious, he declined her advances, adding: She would know I’m a virgin.’
The Redditor said: ‘So I just said I was really tired and wanted to go home. She had a slightly disappointed look on her cute face, but walked with me to the entrance.
“She gave me a long kiss, which I have some experience with, but not nearly as good as a man my age should be.”
The Redditor said he thought his date started to suspect something after not making any moves on their third date: “I think the last two days have caught up with her.
‘She asked very softly and smiling, ‘Are you a virgin?’
The poster continued, “Call me The Weeknd because I couldn’t feel my face at that moment. Out of sheer shock, I said, “No. I’m just tired,” and she laughed.
“She’ll find out eventually. And I really like her. But she’ll know I lied about this and I don’t know what to do.”
So far, the post has attracted more than 400 comments from people offering their advice.
Many commentators have encouraged Virgo to be honest.
Actress Rebel Wilson has revealed that she didn’t have sex until the age of 35, which is double the age at which the average American loses their virginity: 17 years old
One person wrote: ‘BHonest sooner rather than later… Communication is everything. If you can’t be honest with her, you might as well not be with her. Getting nervous is acceptable. Being unreliable is not that.’
Meanwhile, a female commentator gave him some reassurance, writing: ‘As a girl, I don’t understand what the hell is wrong with a man being a virgin.
‘I actually think it’s cute if he didn’t have anyone before me.
“If this turns her off, then she’s honestly just not the right one. Don’t waste your time and find someone who wants you for who you are, not how many girls you’ve slept with.’
While the vast majority of commenters reassured men that there is nothing wrong with being a virgin at 23, experts have long emphasized the benefits of a healthy sex life, including boosting your immune system and heart health, lowering blood pressure, strengthening muscles, improving your immune system and improving your health. sleep and even extending one’s lifespan.
When you abstain from sex for extended periods of time – whether you remain a virgin or go through a dry spell – studies have shown that thinking slows down, the immune system deteriorates, pelvic muscles and bladder control weaken, stress and frustration increase, pain tolerance plummets and your sleep is disturbed.
In 2007, one of the first studies To investigate how the age at which you lose your virginity predicts future outcomes, you found that men who have sex for the first time at ages 21-23 have a harder time getting and keeping an erection and having an orgasm experienced.
Men who had sex for the first time in their 20s had a 59 percent higher risk of sexual arousal problems than men who had sex at 17.
They also had a 46 percent increased risk of erection problems and a 74 percent increased risk of being unable to achieve orgasm.
Stephanie Manes, a relationship therapist, previously told DailyMail.com that the pressure to perform after all those years of waiting can lead to anxiety that will ruin the mood.
She said: ‘Fear is a big buzz-kill for excitement.
‘It’s quite common for men to have problems maintaining an erection or having an orgasm when they have sex with a new partner for the first time. There can be a lot of pressure to please the woman and prove that she can be a good lover.’