I dumped a guy after a month when I realised I didn’t find him attractive. Then he sent me this utterly unhinged barrage of messages
A woman has shared the 'horrific' messages her previous affair sent her as she tried to end the relationship.
Mandy had been dating a man for less than a month when she realized she wasn't attracted to him and that his personality wasn't what she wanted in a partner.
“I tried to give him a chance but he was flaky and bragged about how he slept with multiple women and paid for escorts,” she revealed on Reddit. 'He just annoyed me so I had to put an end to it. We only had one formal date.”
The guy completely 'freaked out' after she expressed her disinterest – as she continued to ramble off paragraphs about how they were 'perfect' together, and he couldn't understand how she changed her mind so quickly.
“I'm in shock right now,” he replied. “This isn't you. I don't know what's going on, you're literally making no sense. Have you been putting on a facade this whole time?'
Mandy had been dating a man for less than a month when she realized she wasn't attracted to him and that his personality wasn't what she wanted in a partner.
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A woman has shared the 'horrific' messages her ex-relationship sent her when she tried to end the relationship
Mandy originally wanted to speak on the phone, but the man said he was sick and preferred to text, so she remained polite and explained that while she enjoyed getting to know him, they just weren't right for each other.
But he refused to take 'no' for an answer and continued to accuse Mandy of lying to him or falling for someone else.
“You probably met a man tonight,” he said. 'We really need to talk. I feel like you're taking the easy way out (by texting). I'll see you in person and we'll talk about it. I won't lose you like that. I'll see you tomorrow afternoon.'
Mandy began to feel worried at the man's persistence and begged him to calm down, but he insisted he was 'feelless' because he was ill and that this was not a reflection of his character.
He texted, “You have to trust me. This is something that can be explained and discussed; emotions are just high right now. Let me call you in the morning – even without being able to end it via text. This is stupid, we're both adults.'
![I dumped a guy after a month when I realised I didn't find him attractive. Then he sent me this utterly unhinged barrage of messages 6 Mandy originally wanted to speak on the phone, but the man said he was sick and preferred to text, so she remained polite. She explained that she enjoyed getting to know him, but they just weren't right for each other.](https://nybreaking.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/12/1702472315_272_I-dumped-a-guy-after-a-month-when-I-realised.jpg)
Mandy originally wanted to speak on the phone, but the man said he was sick and preferred to text, so she remained polite. She explained that she enjoyed getting to know him, but they just weren't right for each other.
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The man told Mandy she was rash because he felt they had a good relationship
Mandy replied: 'My emotions aren't high, it's just not working. I wanted to call you, but you said you can't talk on the phone.'
She added: “I called you out for being flaky, and yet your behavior continued. I can have a perfectly normal conversation with you, but there are more things to consider when assessing a potential partner. You lack the characteristics I want in a relationship.
“It's simple: to have real feelings for someone requires more depth that I don't see in you or your behavior.”
He then accused Mandy of being 'cold' and a bad guy – before sending her a long string of messages explaining his side of the story.
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The man continued to insist on seeing Mandy in person, but she wanted nothing more to do with him and made that clear
“Your reasoning is baseless and a bit out of pocket. You don't have to be honest with me, but for your own personal growth you have to be honest with yourself.
'Maybe it was just an illusion to imagine us together, but I thought we were compatible. If you can't go without seeing me because of my current impediments (which are outside my jurisdiction), then you may be right.
“I'm on a path to success and there are times when I fall that I have to get up. I think I'm looking for someone who is more understanding and open-minded.
“I'm sorry, but I refuse to acknowledge the fact that I'm being superficial because you portray a few incidents as the central ideology of your entire refutation (sic).
“That statement is more evidence that you've just been unreasonable with my current sign that I've been dealing with, but ultimately it's your choice and I'm not going to argue with that. It's not my character and I stand by that.'
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![I dumped a guy after a month when I realised I didn't find him attractive. Then he sent me this utterly unhinged barrage of messages 16 The man's lengthy message defended his actions and then claimed that Mandy wasn't the right choice for him after all because he wanted someone who was more 'understanding'.](https://nybreaking.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/12/1702472324_560_I-dumped-a-guy-after-a-month-when-I-realised.jpg)
He then accused Mandy of being 'cold' and a bad guy – before sending her a long string of messages explaining his side of the story.
Some could not believe the man would react this way and were ashamed of his actions.
“I've had eerily similar reactions from guys who just couldn't fathom why I was no longer interested and insisted on talking in person,” one person shared. “Almost as if they know it's easier to manipulate and feel guilty face to face.”
“This guy seems very emotional over a month long relationship,” another commented.
'It is dirty. How hard is it to just accept that it's not happening? You can be disappointed, but you can't force someone to stay with you/go out with you,” one woman wrote.
While others blamed Mandy for 'prolonging' the conversation.
“Honestly, I don't know why you kept answering. It was just an extension of an awkward conversation,” one woman said.
'Why are you making fun of someone who pours his heart out? You are ruthless,” said another. 'No class whatsoever.'