A man has revealed that he plans to divorce his wife who has bipolar disorder because she has physically and emotionally “abused” him. He adds that he is now “fearing” for his life.
The unnamed 26-year-old man took to Reddit to vent all his frustrations with his 30-year-old wife, whom he did not name.
He explained that after they lost a baby, his wife had a “complete mental breakdown” and was diagnosed with bipolar disorder soon after. However, she has stopped taking her meds for quite some time, which makes him “afraid” of being around his own husband.
Post in the thread titled ‘Where from my chest,” the 26-year-old shared that his wife is now “manipulating” him into having sex and buying her jewelry, following his every move.
A man has revealed he plans to divorce his wife who has bipolar disorder because she ‘abused’ him – adding that he now has ‘fear’ for his life (stock image)
The unnamed 26-year-old man took to Reddit to vent all his frustrations with his 30-year-old wife, whom he did not name
The post read, “My wife and I have been married for a year now and I can’t take her crazy anymore. We lost a baby in January and it caused a complete nervous breakdown. She was diagnosed with bipolar a few months ago and when she took her medication everything seemed to be back to normal.
“She hasn’t taken any medication or therapy in a long time, and everything has gotten worse. I honestly fear for my life and her life much more often than I should be.
“She forcibly refuses to take her meds or do anything to be treated. She will yell and scream and chew me for an hour at a time and then try to cuddle up to me or get sexual like nothing happened.
Her mood swings become extreme. She is unpredictable at best, but I have to walk on eggshells to avoid getting hit on the back or shoulder.
“I have bruises now. The worst part was last night when we were in bed and I wouldn’t cuddle in the position she wanted. She sat up, straddled me and slapped my chest, neck and face.”
He explained that she recently quit her job, leaving his income as the only one coming in.
This has resulted in him and her having “hardly enough money to live on.”
And because she has no job, the anonymous woman never leaves her house and she stays home and watches TV all day long or waits for her husband to come back.
The unnamed husband also shared that he is now being manipulated into having sex with her
The unnamed husband also shared that he is now being manipulated into having sex with her.
He said, “She manipulates me into having sex (yes, it’s very much manipulated now) hours after I get home, and guilt trips me when I want to go see my friends or go to the gym or church.”
“I don’t take summer college courses, so I have a little more free time than I did in the spring, and she made sure I spend every minute with her. I often feel less like her partner and more like a slave.’
He explained that her behavior has become so “obsessive” that he found an Apple Airtag in his car and backpack.
“She’s controlling, she’s manipulative, calculating, and really cruel. Almost everything she does is scientifically designed to get something from me or punish me for not being enough.
“I found a chart in some notes on her phone of ways that have worked to get me to do things for her, like have sex or household chores or get me to buy her a gift or take her out. She has a comprehensive list of my daily schedule and activities.
“For example, if she wants to have sex or watch a certain movie, or go out to dinner, or let me buy jewelry or perfume or clothes or shoes, she has this system of ways of asking me and forcing me to do it. doing, with rewards and punishments to make me mentally associate with doing things or not doing things. It’s like training a dog, except I’m her goddamn husband.”
He revealed that he feels like his life is a “nightmare”, adding that he can no longer look at her since discovering the list of ways she successfully manipulated him.
He revealed that he feels like his life is a “nightmare”, adding that he can no longer look at her since discovering the list of ways she successfully manipulated him.
The man said his plan was to leave the Airtags in his work locker and see a divorce lawyer.
He noted that he would also tell her parents everything.
However, he said the only thing holding him back was the way his wife would react.
He explained, “My big problem is I don’t know how she’s going to react when she gets the news. I think maybe I can get my documents and valuables out of the apartment when I get home and pretend to take them to a storage room, then call her from a hotel.
“I will also have the police on standby if she gives any indication that she is going to hurt herself.
‘But yes, I’m done. I can not do this anymore. Maybe I’m weak, or not tough, or an asshole for not staying with her, but I can’t live like this.’
Users on the social media platform flooded the comments section with advice, begging him to go to the police before telling his wife the news.
One person commented: ‘It may be worth considering speaking to your local police and letting them know that you are leaving and not missing…that way they will be aware of the situation if she takes that route.’
Users on the social media platform flooded the comments section with advice, begging him to go to the police before telling his wife the news
Another user wrote, “Or if she really freaks out and comes at you with more than her fists. If you have any bruises when you go to talk to them, have them documented in case you need to restrain her from getting out of there. Good luck and keep it safe.’
And if you choose to stay elsewhere and you’re eager to break up, remember that a restraining order can help. It’s just a piece of paper, but it would be handy to have it on paper in case you go missing or something like that. I say this as a woman, for context.
“The mental health part is so hard to deal with, supporting it has to be a hit and you sound like a good dude. I hope you are doing better,” one person added.
“I went through something similar with my ex-wife and the police in my town really appreciated the heads-up. Eventually I kept in touch with a sergeant who initially responded to a call to our house towards the start of our troubles, there wasn’t much he could do until or unless she got violent but he was a great resource. They see this all the time,” another commented.
Someone else wrote, “There are ways for OP to work with legal authorities to involuntarily commit her for psychiatric treatment, op could easily pack their bags and plan a smooth transition, while also getting help from this person of whom they once loved.’
Another user said, ‘Definitely get your stuff out of the house. This sounds like a terrible scenario. I hope you have a safe place where she can’t find you. Hopefully your rental contract will end soon, so you can cancel.’
One person commented, “Time to get the authorities involved so your wife can get the right help, like hospitalization for treatment. She is a danger to you and everyone around her. Mental health problems are no joke and the longer you let it go without treatment, the greater the chance that something bad could happen.’