Woman reveals her husband insists she covers up around the house if she’s not interested in having sex with him – and people warn he needs to see a therapist
A woman who revealed her husband insists she covers up around the house to avoid ‘teasing’ him has been warned she is married to a ‘sex pest’.
The woman took to British parenting platform Mumsnet and the online community was outraged by the way he did it tells her not to sit in a position that shows her curves and even cover her legs with a blanket if they are on display.
The woman explained that her husband acts this way when she doesn’t want to have sex with him, but he is “really horny.”
She wrote, “When I seem annoyed by this, he says he finds it too hard to see me in a way he deems sexy because he knows he won’t have sex with me. To be clear, I’m not trying to ‘tease’ him in any way; I’m just going to get on with my life.’
Mumsnet users were almost unanimous in calling out her husband, with some even going so far as to label him a ‘sex pest’ and ‘a chimp who can’t control himself’.
A woman took to British parenting platform Mumsnet after her husband insisted she cover up if she didn’t want to have sex with him
While the wife admitted that she found her husband’s behavior “irritating and controlling,” she also wondered if she should be “more sensitive”
The online community criticized the woman’s husband’s “weird, controlling and quite disgusting” behavior, pointing out that “his inability to control himself” is his own problem.
The full message read: ‘There are times of the month when I really don’t want sex, but my DH does [Dear Husband] will still be very hot.
‘At times like this he will tell me not to sit in a certain way that shows off my curves, or he will cover my legs with a blanket if I show any part of them. When I seem annoyed by this, he says he finds it too hard to see me in a way he considers sexy because he knows he won’t have sex with me.
“To be clear, I’m not trying to ‘tease’ him in any way; I’m just going on with my life.
‘AIBU [Am I being unreasonable] Do you find this behavior of his annoying and controlling? Or should I be more sensitive?’
Musmnet users were almost unanimous in their condemnation of the man’s behavior, with one person calling him a “sex pest.”
One person wrote: ‘The behavior of a sex pest, with my vagina clenching shut.’
Another Mumsnet user contributed: ‘His sexual impulses are not your responsibility. He is an adult who can control himself. You are an adult who can sit however you want and wear whatever you want.”
While a third commented: ‘I feel quite disgusted by this. He’s weird, controlling and quite disgusting. He finds it “too hard to see you in a way he finds sexy???” WHATAF?
“I wouldn’t want to have sex with him for the rest of the month if he kept this up.”
A fourth user said: ‘Tell him you’re not a sex object. He controls himself in dealing with other women he meets on the street who he finds attractive, so why can’t he do the same for you at home? He has to learn to look away when you’re so irresistible.
“That’s just disgusting.”
Another Mumsnet user was so concerned about what the woman had described that they urged the man to ‘see a therapist’ and wondered whether he could ‘trust him not to cheat’.
The user wrote: ‘How does he manage to walk down the shopping street on a hot summer day? How does he manage to go swimming or go to the gym?
‘If he is so completely unable to control his urges, he should 1. See a therapist. 2. He can’t be trusted not to cheat.
“Have you discussed those two things with him?”