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How to REJECT a partner: Relationship expert lists her four rules for telling a date you don’t want to see them anymore – so do you agree?
- Louanne Ward has revealed how to reject a date with dignity in four steps
- She said the process is the best way to let them down without ghosting
- It involves warning them of impending bad news and apologising first
- You then deliver the news and leave them to walk away with all the positives
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Relationship expert Louanne Ward has revealed her four-step process for letting a date know you don’t want to see them anymore – without ghosting them.
‘One of the most challenging things about dating is rejection, not only being rejected but having to reject someone,’ Louanne, from Perth, said.
‘In fact the thought of emotional confrontation or uncomfortable conversation can become so awkward rather than simply telling someone you don’t want to see them anymore you may decide to take the easy road of avoiding and or ghosting.
‘So how do you tell someone who you “should” be attracted to – who ticks all of your boxes, who has done everything right that you don’t see it working, that they aren’t what you’re looking for?’
Relationship expert Louanne Ward has revealed her four-step process for letting a date know you don’t want to see them anymore – without ghosting them
STEP 1: WARN THEM THAT BAD NEWS IS COMING
Unlike constructive criticism this prepares the person rather than leading them into a false sense of security.
‘If you know you don’t want to move things forward it is best to close the door once and for all,’ Louanne said.
‘Warn the person bad news is coming’
STEP 2: APOLOGISE FOR WHAT YOU ARE ABOUT TO SAY
This helps soften the receiver’s reaction to you.
‘Use “I’m sorry”, “I apologise”, “I’m regretful there is no easy way to say this.”,’ Louanne said.
STEP 3: DELIVER THE NEWS
Tell the truth and share anything you feel is important for the person to know.
Give them the reason you are deciding not to continue moving forward with them.
Tell the truth and share anything you feel is important for the person to know
STEP 4: LEAVE THEM WITH ALL THE POSITIVES
‘Tell them all the things you appreciate and the positive aspects you have seen in them,’ Louanne said.
‘People always remember the last thing you say.
‘The last thing you say affects the way the person feels and people remember the way you made them feel.’