My girlfriend cheated on me in a THREESOME – now I want to end our relationship

An annoyed man has asked if he is wrong for wanting to break up with his girlfriend, a year after she had a threesome behind his back.

The unnamed 26-year-old, believed to be from the US, took to Reddit to ask the question in the AITAH (short for Am I The A**Hole) thread.

He unraveled the sordid drama that all started when he and his girlfriend, also 26, “took a kink quiz a while ago,” with the intention of “helping bring new sex/kink ideas into the bedroom.”

But the situation soon took a drastic turn – and other users on the discussion forum have since flocked to the comments to share their thoughts.

The unnamed 26-year-old took to Reddit to ask the question on the AITAH – short for Am I The A** Hole – thread

Later in the quiz, the man explained: ‘I selected group sex as an interest of mine and she said no.

“After we compared, she said she was a little unsure that I had picked that as something I wanted to try. I told her it’s not something I need or want right now, but the idea of ​​it is quite popular.

“She still felt weird about it, so I said let’s not bring it up again, and the conversation ended for a while.”

But a few months ago, the guy was surprised to hear his girlfriend bring up the idea of ​​group sex again – and she had changed her tune and was suddenly interested in trying it out.

He admitted: ‘I was confused and to be honest I thought it was a test. I told her again that I don’t really need that right now, but we can talk about it as a fantasy if she wants.

‘We both thought a couple swap would be more ideal because I’m not bi and she’s not really sure if she would be interested in women. She then told me that maybe we could explore it in the near future.”

Then the conversation around the subject ended – or so he thought.

Two days ago, he wrote, the girlfriend casually mentioned that she “met another couple and decided to have a threesome with them after a girls’ night out.”

Across more than 2,300 comments, users highlighted that the man was an NTA – or ‘Not The A**hole’ – if he went ahead with breaking up with the girlfriend, with many strongly encouraging him to do so.

“I was stunned by the revelation and told her it was a hoax, but she claims it isn’t,” he fumed.

‘Her reasoning is that she was insecure and had to make the first move. But now that she did, she realized it wasn’t a problem. Now she wants to sign up for a swinger dating site that the other couple was also on,” he further described the girlfriend’s rather complicated logic.

“I left and haven’t come back since the discovery, but I’m seriously considering ending it,” he emphasized.

Even though they had only been together for a year, “things got serious,” he said.

Summing up his bewilderment in a question to Reddit users: ‘This is definitely cheating, right? Or should I never have brought this up?’

Across more than 2,300 comments, users highlighted that the man was an NTA – or ‘Not The A**hole’ – if he continued to break up with the girlfriend, with many strongly encouraging him to do so.

‘NTA. That’s 200% cheating, saying group sex is something you’re interested in doesn’t mean you’re free to fuck other people without your partner’s knowledge, those things are discussed, boundaries are places etc. I don’t know if she’s delusional or something but break up with her,” read one top-voted comment.

Agreed a second commenter, who could speak from experience on the issue of group sex in relationships: “NTA. Your girl cheated. Leave her. She’s either completely stupid or completely evil.

‘My wife and I are polyamorous and have been that way since we first met. We have been together for 8 years. Never before have we done something like this to each other,” they wrote.

‘What did I just read? Your girlfriend is delusional or just evil, or both. That’s cheating, there’s no two ways about it. Now leave and don’t look back while you still can,” chimed in a third.

“NTA, it’s clearly a hoax. Either she’s incredibly stupid for thinking it wasn’t cheating, or she knows it was wrong and wanted to hurt you,” a fourth agreed.

As a fifth put it: ‘NTA. It’s cheating. You didn’t discuss this before, you didn’t agree with it, you didn’t set boundaries. She cheated, and now she wants a different kind of relationship. It is completely acceptable for you to walk away.

“This is a very dangerous precedent to set in a relationship (if you were to forgive her) and she really only seems to be thinking about herself.”