A friend I've known for five years won't let me into her house even when I ask to go to the bathroom – and people all say the same thing

A woman revealed that a friend of five years won't let her into her house, even to use the toilet.

Towards the British parenting platform Mothernetthe woman explained that no one has ever seen the inside of her co-worker's house, despite them spending countless nights out together.

She claimed that one day she asked to use her partner's toilet because she was 'desperate', but she still refused to let her in.

The message read: 'She won't let me in her house. I have a friend who I met through work. We have been friends for 5 years. She doesn't let friends into her house.

“We've been out and about for dinner together, but she won't let anyone into her house.

'I recently brought her home and I was desperate to use the toilet and she wouldn't let me in to use it. Has anyone else had this before?'

Many responded to the comments, suggesting her co-worker might be “a hoarder” and was embarrassed by people seeing her home.

One person said: 'I know a woman who readily admits that she doesn't let anyone into her house (sons, daughter, grandchildren – no one has been in the house for six years) because it is so messy and dirty. She's a hoarder.

'I came to pick her up a few times and she made me wait outside in the car. I offered to help her clear her house, but she refuses.”

Another said: 'Hoarder and ashamed of it?' While someone else had the same thought, simply saying, “Hoarder.”

Elsewhere, another said: 'It sounds like she's ashamed of something. I had a colleague who lived near her aunt and she always said she left her on the doorstep.

'She thought she was anti-social, but it turned out she was hoarding. The family found out when she unexpectedly had to go to the hospital. Apparently there was no safe route through the house.'

However, others thought it could be other problems, such as an abusive partner, OCD or another mental health problem.

One person suggested: 'It could be an OCD contagion. It is not uncommon for people with this form of OCD to discourage others from visiting.”

Another said: 'Does she have children living with her? I would actually consider reporting to the SS if she does. She's clearly hiding something.'

Someone else wrote: 'It was just a thought: maybe her toilet was in bad shape, maybe she had no toilet paper, no clean towels or no soap.

“Maybe she had something on display in her house at the time that she didn't want you to see. It sounds like she might be a little worried. I think if you like this person, you can forget about it anyway and move on.”

A fourth said: 'There could be many reasons. Hoarder, unpleasant partner, previous bad experiences with guests, ashamed of how it looks, she could be living with someone who is unwell.

“To be honest, I don't think you need to think about it too much, whatever the reason is that it's not a reflection of you. Just respect her choice.”

Others were outraged that the woman wanted a ride home but wouldn't let her friend use the bathroom.

One person said: 'I think it's bad to happily accept a ride home from a colleague from events but deny him a quick use of the toilet when he needs it.'

Another said: 'Do you like the lady OP? Because I would find this completely bizarre if I knew someone for five years. I think the fact that you gave her a ride and she denied you a quick bathroom break would really put me off. I would not offer lifts in the future.'

Someone else wrote: 'Everyone stands up for the colleague – don't you think it's kind of mean not to let a colleague at work go to the toilet when they need to?'