When my editor wanted the best turn-offs for men, I thought about emailing back a blank page.
Because when it comes to sex, there’s not much you can do to scare a man off.
Before you get outraged, I’m not saying that men don’t have standards. I’m just pointing out that when sex is offered to a man on a plate, it’s going to be hard for you to hear them say “not tonight honey, I don’t like your lip gloss.”
Men like sex; more than that, they need it. I wrote in my first book ‘Hooked’ that men need sex like women need a good foundation.
I know men who can’t concentrate at work, can’t function normally unless they have regular sex. I wouldn’t say their lust controls their lives, but sex and their desire for it is the biggest downfall of powerful men.
“I know men who can’t concentrate at work, can’t function normally unless they have regular sex,” former call girl Samantha X revealed [pictured]
So we know what men want in bed in my previous column. What about what they don’t want?
Even in my previous role as Australia’s most famous escort, I’ve had to ask a few men for this one. Even they scratched their heads. Here’s what I came up with, feel free to voice your own opinion:
Too much fake tan and makeup
Women can dress however they want, they can wear as much suntan lotion and make-up as they want. We do it for ourselves.
If you’re doing it to impress a man, save your expensive products for another occasion – they hate it. It stinks, it gets the sheets dirty and one man even complained that he had fake tan marks on his nose after kissing his lover.
They want to see and smell the real you. They want to see your face without makeup; no one likes a jolt in the morning.
The bottom line is that you shouldn’t be afraid to show him who you are. While hygiene is essential, natural body odor is sexy. Men love your natural scent over floral scented soap any day of the week.
Samantha X listed talking too much during sex, being needy and using too much makeup as some of the biggest turn offs men have in the bedroom
Talking too much during sex
A little dirty talk is fine, but shouting explicit demands throughout the session might be going too far.
A few sexy lines will turn him on, but a whole X-rated dialogue and the pressure can be overbearing, and you can lose interest – and his erection.
Men need to focus on the act here and I’m not saying they can’t do two things at once, but…keep it short and sexy.
Another: baby talk. I don’t have to explain why.
Shaved too close
This one might surprise you because it surprised me. I’ve had more men tell me they’d rather have hair there than not. While women may prefer Brazilian wax or laser for neatness, more than a few men have told me they prefer a more feminine look and want us to bring back Bring Back the Bush.
Faking your orgasms
Remember that scene in When Harry Met Sally? Nearly 100 percent of men would have no idea if you’re feigning an orgasm.
Do you think you can tell? That is not possible. That’s how good women are at it.
For women: You don’t have to pretend “yes yes yes” – you owe it to yourself and your partner to be authentic and sincere.
Sex should be pleasurable for both of you; it’s not just about the male orgasm. Men want to please you; they want to make you happy in bed and no one likes a faker.
“Neediness is a huge turn-off for both sexes. There’s nothing sexy about constantly needing reassurance,” Samantha X wrote
Constantly asking if they love you
Neediness a huge turn off for both sexes. There’s nothing sexy about constantly needing reassurance.
If you feel insecure, do a workshop about it with friends or a therapist. Don’t dump it on him, expecting him to reassure you every five minutes.
It will never be enough and it’s unhealthy for any relationship, and it’s far from sexy.
Despite these rejections, most men will probably never turn down an opportunity for sex.
For women on the other hand, one little thing and it’s over for us…it’s a long list so I better start writing.