New York divorce lawyer reveals the two most common reasons marriages END – and how to save your romance from a heartbreaking split

A world-renowned divorce lawyer has revealed the top two things that cause marriages to break up – and how to avoid splitting up with your partner.

James Sexton is a New York City-based family attorney and bestselling author of the books How To Stay In Love and If You’re In My Office, It’s Already Too Late.

The lawyer has now given marriage advice in an episode of The diary of a CEOpodcast hosted by Steve Bartlett.

He shared that the two main causes of divorce are infidelity and money, adding that “cheating is huge, but only part of it.”

In the podcast, James shared that the reasons behind the divorce could be a lack of sex.

He noted that men were accused of cheating more often than women, and this often led to divorce.

However, he added that this was not the only reason.

The lawyer explained: ‘Cheating is a huge part, it’s an oversimplification.

“So someone comes in and says we’re getting a divorce. Why? Because he sleeps with his secretary.

“I understand, yes that’s true, that’s one of the variables that led to your divorce, but you hadn’t slept with him in three years.

“So I’m not saying this makes the cheating excusable, but you’re saying you had a really great, healthy marriage and then this nefarious secretary came into the picture and he was suddenly chased away? No, there were circumstances that made this very likely to happen.

“Let’s go back a little further, because the truth is at the bottom of a bottomless pit.’

James revealed that men were always looking for more sex, while women were looking for more quality intimacy.

“Men want more quantity sex, women want more quality,” he said.

The divorce lawyer explained that this had a lot to do with the reasoning behind why men sought out other women.

He suggested that this was also why porn was more popular with men.

“It’s the same reason porn is more popular with men than women, because men just want to do their job,” James said.

The other reason people divorced was financial problems, the lawyer said.

He added: ‘There are two main reasons why people divorce: infidelity, which we’ve talked about, and the other one we haven’t talked about yet, which is money.

‘Money is current. Money has a lot to do with power. Everything in the world is about sex… and I think money is about power.

‘Money is about control. Money is about opportunity, security, it’s about a lot of things, but it’s not really about money.

‘Money is just a currency what we trade in, so I think there’s a lot of complicated things involved in money.

‘People are dishonest with themselves and with money.’

James lifted the lid on the most common divorces involving money.

He said that when a woman was fired and didn’t bring in money, it didn’t often lead to divorce.

However, he admitted that when men lost their jobs, women were not ‘attracted’ to the idea of ​​being the ‘breadwinner’ and this often led to divorce.

“It’s about what money represents, it’s about power,” he said.

James said there were ways couples could avoid divorce.

The lawyer noted that couples must “look out for each other” to keep love alive.

He also had some advice for men. James said men should leave love notes for their spouses to remind them how much they loved them.

He explained that although it would take “10 seconds,” it showed your partner that he cared.

In the past, James revealed that you should never include a fidelity or sunset clause in their prenuptial agreement.

‘Fidelity’ clauses mean that the marriage contract is void if one person is unfaithful, and a ‘sunset’ clause defines the time after which the terms of the agreement expire.