DEAR JANE: My roommate has REALLY loud sex with her boyfriend all day long – she won’t shut up even though our neighbors keep complaining

Dear Jane,

I’ve lived with the same roommate for the past three years without any problems – we’re not the best of friends, but we’re great companions. We don’t fight, we’re both neat and orderly, and occasionally we’ll share a pizza when we’re both feeling lazy.

Two months ago, she started dating this young man and things have been going really well for them. How can I know? Because I can hear literally everything they say and do through her very thin bedroom walls.

And by everything, I mean their incredibly energetic sex lives.

Now, I’m not the kind of girl who wants to throw water on someone’s fire, but it’s actually getting unbearable. They are in it all the time. During the day, in the early hours of the morning… it just goes on and on.

Dear Jane, My roommate won’t stop having loud sex with her boyfriend – and she refuses to accept that our neighbors are starting to complain

And the noises are insane. There’s screaming, noise… I’ll spare you the other details, but it’s gotten so loud and non-stop that even the neighbors have started complaining.

A guy who lives in the apartment next door came up to me in the lobby to ask if we could keep the loud “tricks” to a minimum, and the couple who lives on the other side of us dropped a note under our door asking for us please ‘stop with the screaming sex’.

Both times my roommate just laughed and said they need to get a life or grow up.

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I really don’t want to sound like a bigot, but it’s making my life a bit miserable right now and I have no idea how to tell her.

She’s clearly not embarrassed, but I’m so sick of people’s minds that I won’t take the elevator anymore in case people come up to me to talk about it.

Please help!

from,

The silent cry for help

Dear silent cry for help,

good god

Maybe it’s my age, but I’m exhausted just reading this letter – your poor neighbors and you! Yelling and fighting are no fun for anyone.

Well… Maybe for some people, but no one else!

As for your neighbors and not getting in the elevator, that is not your fault and you are not responsible for your roommate’s behavior.

If they complain to you, tell them it’s even worse living in an apartment with them.

Something has to change. Try recording how loud they are and play it back for her so she can fully understand what it’s like to try to sleep through the noise.

Failing that, I might be inclined to wait for your roommate to have a night off from her boyfriend, preferably while she’s trying to catch up on her sleep and bang some pots and pans around the room while you sing out loud to your favorite. the songs.

Throw in a scream or two. Maybe bounce on the bed a few times, ensuring that your forehead hits the wall you share in a somewhat… rhythmic… manner.

I hope one of the above will help her realize how selfish her behavior is.

If she still doesn’t get it, I’d suggest it’s time for you to start looking for a new roommate.