DEAR JANE: My new neighbor won’t stop flirting with my husband – and she even sunbathes NAKED to get his attention

Dear Jane,

A few weeks ago, my husband and I had a new neighbor: a single mom, who seemed super friendly and cool. She brought her son over to say hello, and I was so happy – I really thought we could be friends.

I asked her to come over for drinks the next day, and we all exchanged numbers in case she needed anything.

But when she came along, things got weird real quick. She wasn’t interested in me at all and just kept staring at my husband. She barely said a single word to me and spent the entire time with him, giggling and twirling her hair in a very flirty way. My husband is a pretty easy-going guy, but even he found it awkward.

Afterwards, my husband and I agreed that she should just stick to her side of the fence, and that we wouldn’t want her again. But she has been ruthless ever since. I texted my husband all the time asking him to come over and help with problems with her lawn mower, her washing machine, her air conditioner. He went twice and then told her that he was very busy with work and probably couldn’t help anymore.

So yesterday she started sunbathing naked in her backyard, which our bedroom window overlooks, and she knows she is in full view of our window. I’m so angry about it – and ashamed for her and her poor son, who I hope wasn’t there when she was sunbathing.

I don’t know what to do. I don’t want any bad blood, but I feel like I have to say something. My husband is afraid it will make everything worse and doesn’t want me to say it, but I don’t think that’s the right thing to do. This time I think I should put my foot down.

How can I get her to back off without causing more drama?

By,

Nightmare next door

Best nightmare next door,

What a disappointment, to see a potential new friend turn into a nightmare.

You don’t say if she kept texting your husband, but I assume that by saying he can’t help anymore, he found the solution.

As for the nude sunbathing in her own backyard, I’m not sure what you can do about it since it’s not illegal and it’s her private property.

I would buy some net curtains for the window so you don’t have to look at her, which has the dual purpose of showing her that your man isn’t interested in looking at her either.

At this point it doesn’t seem like you need to say anything, but if she starts dating your husband again, the two of you can simply say that you’re both too busy to help her and that she should Task Rabbit for anything. must try. that needs to be repaired in and around the house.

I highly doubt this behavior will continue once you set a firm boundary and stick to it.

If she realizes she’s not getting an answer from your husband, I think she’ll look elsewhere. Good luck.

Dear Jane,

I’ve been with my boyfriend for a few years now and the entire time I’ve known him he has had a toenail that is completely disgusting – it literally looks like it’s rotting.

He thinks it’s funny that I’m so annoyed, and says the doctor told him there’s nothing he can do. But in recent months it has become even more gross – and now it is painful for him too.

He says it doesn’t hurt at all, but I see him wince every time he puts his shoes on, and he can barely walk more than 10 minutes without being in pain and having to sit down.

Even if it didn’t hurt him, I want him to do something because it’s so disgusting. I don’t want to see his feet anymore and I definitely don’t want them touching me in bed.

I urged him to go to the doctor and have it looked at, but he says there’s no point because he knows there’s nothing they can do.

I don’t want to make a big deal out of it, but I’m starting to think maybe he’s scared, and I don’t know how to get him to go to the doctor without embarrassing him?

By,

Something is going on

Dear Something is going on,

Feet aren’t exactly beautiful at the best of times, and rotting toenails are – forgive me – disgusting beyond belief.

The fact that this also causes pain means he should see a doctor immediately.

It doesn’t seem true to me that a doctor has said that nothing can be done, not least because fungal infections of the toenails can spread, and if bacteria get in, antibiotics are needed.

He could also lose the toenail, which honestly could be a blessing considering how it looks, but either way, this needs to be treated.

And it can be treated, which means he may be lying to you about going to the doctor, and may have some anxiety. However you do it – make an appointment for yourself, take him with you and insist that the doctor or podiatrist look at his foot, or persuade him to go on his own because of all the possible health problems, he should see a doctor sooner rather than later. does that. later on.

And then I bought him a lot of socks.