Dating expert Louanne Ward shares the ‘brutal truth’ about single parents and dating

A dating expert has shared the ‘brutal truth’ about single parents in the dating world – and why you should never let someone use their kids as an ‘excuse’ for not spending time with you.

Professional matchmaker and relationship expert Louanne Wardfrom Perth, said everyone knows that anyone who has children will always put them first, but if someone really cares about you then they will also make time for you in a dating capacity.

“Don’t allow anyone to use their children as an excuse to bread you,” Louanne said in a clip on Instagram.

Breadcrumbing is a behavior in which one partner gives the other partner just enough energy, time, attention, affection, and affirmation to provide some elements of a romantic relationship, but never quite enough.

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Louanne explained that breadcrumbing tactics are often used by single parents who don’t really want to date and instead use their kids as an excuse.

“Any sane person knows when they’re dating a single parent — be it a single mom or a single dad — that parental obligations come first,” she said.

So if you’re dating someone and they keep saying to you, “oh, my kids come first,” know that this is a really handy excuse for them to bread you with a legitimate reason to do just that .’

Louanne explained that “no one” will say their “mom or dad life” comes before their children and they will “drop everything to be served at your beck and call.”

But if someone repeatedly feels the need to “continually tell or point out to you that their children come first,” then they are using their children as an excuse to “do everything their own way instead of going through the effort.” to do to go out with someone’.

Louanne (pictured) said it doesn’t make sense because once kids are taken to school or put to bed it’s really easy to ‘pick up the phone and call that person you’re dating’

Louanne said it doesn’t make sense because once kids are taken to school or put to bed, it’s really easy to “pick up the phone and call that person you’re dating.”

“Someone will always find space to hook up with you, even if they can’t go on a date every second night [if they like you],’ she said.

“They’ll put in enough time and effort—whether or not they have kids.”

She said it’s just a “dating tactic” used by single parents as an excuse for their bad behavior.

Louanne concluded: ‘Dating is a two-way street; having kids can make things harder for you, but don’t expect others to accept your crumbs. You have to make an equal effort in other ways.’

Hundreds who saw the clip thanked Louanne for sharing the information.

Previously, Louanne revealed that the only mistake single women make is to dump a man because he wants to help solve their problems instead of just listening to them.

She said she thinks it’s a “huge red flag” when a guy doesn’t offer to help his girlfriend, wife, or the woman he’s dating with their problems.