A dating coach has claimed that women who look and sound expensive are less likely to be interested in men – and ‘that’s okay.’
Nelly Sudri, 28, a matchmaker in Beverly Hills, California, has nearly 785,000 followers on TikTok, where she shares dating advice for “high value singles.”
The content creator known as @question.nellywent viral after they explained why exceptional women have a harder time finding men to pursue them.
“Ladies, the more expensive you look and the more expensive you sound… the smaller your dating pool will be,” she said.
Nelly Sudri, 28, is a dating coach and matchmaker in Beverly Hills, California, who works with “high value singles”
The content creator known as @ask.nelly went viral on TikTok after explaining why women who look and sound “expensive” have a smaller dating pool
Sudri explained that it could be anything from your education and worldliness to your luxurious designer wardrobe that makes you look expensive.
“By the way, you know who you are if you fall into this category,” she noted.
“Many men, while they may pursue you for their own personal ego validation, will find it difficult to commit to you because your presence makes them feel insecure.”
This is because “men are programmed to be providers,” according to the dating expert.
“When they see someone like you, they may feel, ‘I can’t offer her anything she doesn’t already have,’ or ‘I can’t impress her the way I can impress a woman who doesn’t have it.’ have all those things,” she said.
“So they’ll go for a girl that makes them feel a lot more in their masculine energy and sometimes it’s not about you. It’s just about them and their own complex.’
Sudri compared dating a woman of value to buying a new Bugatti, which costs $1 million or more depending on the model.
“Bugattis are beautiful, luxurious and expensive cars, but there’s a reason why not many people go into that dealership,” she explained.
Sudri claimed that many men find it difficult to commit to these types of women because their ‘presence makes them feel insecure’
Sudri compared dating a woman of value to buying a new Bugatti. “There’s a reason why not many people walk into that dealership,” she explained
“Not many people can afford them, and even the people who can afford them sometimes feel insecure about the fact that someone might steal the car, or they don’t want to drive around with something so flashy.”
“So I’m not saying you have to become a Toyota or a Benz,” she added, “but don’t be surprised if not many people walk into your dealership if you give off that expensive vibe.”
“Wait for the right customer,” she advised, writing in the caption, “Not everyone can afford you and that’s okay.’
Sudri’s video has been viewed 2.8 million times and received more than 3,000 comments in less than a week.
“My dating pool is a teacup. I dress very stylishly, luxuriously, not too revealing, I am fit and take good care of myself. No man ever comes to me or talks to me!’ one woman complained.
The dating coach said expensive women need to ‘find the right client’
Sudri’s video has been viewed 2.8 million times and received more than 3,000 comments in less than a week. Many women said they could relate to what she said
“A guy told me I used to look expensive and I literally only wear sweats,” another shared.
‘Be expensive! Men should choose their price range and stay in their lane,” another responded.
Others emphasized that there are benefits to knowing your worth and waiting for the right partner.
‘It’s a good thing to have such a small dating pool. It means you have a high standard,” one viewer argued.
‘I’m at peace with it. I won’t lower my standards for anyone again. Been there, done that – it’s not worth it,” someone else commented.