- Jeff Guenther, from Portland, Oregon, regularly gives relationship advice
- Recently, he revealed the tips to make your partner stop being negative
- The love expert said you need to communicate how you feel
A relationship therapist has revealed eight ways to deal with an ‘incredibly negative’ partner.
Jeff Guenther, from Portland, Oregon, has become a viral sensation on TikTok by regularly sharing his relationship expertise.
Most recently, the love expert went to the video sharing platform to lift the lid on the things you could do to stop your loved one from constantly complaining – and when to stop.
In a viral video that has been viewed more than 17,000 times to date, the mental health expert details the different ways you and your partner can overcome negativity.
The clip was captioned: “Eight ways to deal with a partner who is incredibly negative.”
At the beginning of the insight, he noted that he knows many people may have tried these tactics in the past.
However, he implored his viewers to ‘fool him’ and give them ‘one more try’.
The therapist first suggested that lovers “validate” their partner’s feelings.
Therapist Jeff Guenther, from Portland, Oregon, has revealed the eight ways to deal with an ‘incredibly negative’ partner
He said, “Validate the negative things they are talking about so they feel understood and empathized.
“Maybe they keep repeating themselves because that’s all they need from you. Feel free to meet them where they are and be a little negative, but don’t live there.’
He then advised his followers to be “straightforward” about the “impact” their partner has on them when they are negative.
‘Number three: create a negativity-free zone, it sounds stupid but works well. Set aside specific times and areas where complaints and grumbling are completely off the table,” he said.
For his fourth tactic, the health expert recommended being clear about your “emotional boundaries.”
He advised viewers to say, “I want to support you, but I only have about 15 minutes right now to hear you vent.”
Jeff added, “Number five: Encourage problem solving. When they start to complain, gently redirect them with something like, “What do you think could help resolve this?” It’s a gamble, but the conversation suddenly shifts from venting to action-oriented thinking.’
He also suggested that lovers try to change the subject and urged people not to take their partner’s negativity ‘personally’.
In a viral video that has over 17,000 views to date, the mental health expert details the different ways you and your partner can overcome negativity
People on the internet flooded the comments section, thanking the love expert for his advice
Finally, the therapist suggested that you consider whether you are really compatible with that person.
‘Number eight: think about compatibility. If their negative feelings are chronic and unchangeable, it’s okay to question things. You have permission to end the relationship if their continued negativity is bringing you down,” he said at the end of the video.
People on the internet flooded the comments section, thanking the love expert for his advice.
One person said: ‘How did this come at exactly the time I needed it, thank you.’
Someone else added: “The last one. That’s the one. Don’t associate with negative, critical people. They will take you down.”
Another user wrote: ‘This helps so much, you are the best.’
‘Definitely a deal breaker for me. No one in my life is like that and it’s for a reason lol,” a fourth person commented.