A Canadian woman has published a shockingly vitriolic obituary for her late father, claiming she was glad he was silenced by a stroke and that ‘karma’ took his life.
In a TikTok, Amanda Denis shared screenshots of the obituary of her father, Stefan Harold Kandulski, which began with the words, “I’m happy to announce this.”
Denis was forced to publish the memorial on social media after a local funeral home refused to do so.
According to the daughter, Kandulski was an “absent father/husband/brother/son,” an “abusive, narcissistic parent” and “miserable human being” who she wanted to see go.
She wrote that the 74-year-old Kandulsi, after suffering multiple strokes – one of which “fortunately left him unable to speak” – “finally broke down.”
In a follow-up video, Denis thanked people for their support on the obituary video for her ‘sperm donor’, which also received supportive comments.
‘That was such a beautiful obituary, it also speaks to our truth, I wish we had the courage at the time. Thank you,” wrote one commenter on Denis’ follow-up TikTok.
Amanda Denis (pictured) recently published a scathing obituary for her late father, labeling him an ‘abusive, narcissistic’ parent and thanking a stroke for the murder
This is the obituary that Denis published for her father, Stefan Harold Kandulski
Kandulski died in Penticton, British Columbia after suffering multiple strokes.
Denis, an Ontario resident, said her version of the obituary was rejected by her father’s funeral home and she then decided to publish it herself.
Speaking to CTV, the woman said she knew what to do after learning of her “miserable” father’s death earlier this year.
“I’ve never been one to mince my words, I’ve always been an honest go-getter,” Denis said. “So when I heard my father had passed away, I said, ‘I think I should write an obituary’ – and that’s what came out.”
In addition, she decided not to hold services for the deceased because he “treated people with contempt.”
Before concluding the compelling and controversial obituary, she thanked the staff at her father’s hospital and its senior living community for putting up with him.
She also gave a special shout out to karma for “doing what she does best.”
In her interview with the Canadian channel, she said many of her earliest memories involved emotional and physical abuse at the hands of her father.
Later in life, she decided to cut ties with him completely.
“I didn’t want him to hurt anyone I loved anymore, including myself,” she said.
“I’ve never been one to mince my words, I’ve always been an honest go-getter,” Denis said. “So when I heard my father had passed away, I said, ‘I think I should write an obituary’ – and that’s what came out.”
Overall, Denis said she believes the obituary was the perfect final farewell for the parent she deemed unfit to be a father.
“Not all parents are good, and that’s okay and it’s okay to talk about that,” she told Glacier Media. “My father was absent, he was abusive, he was narcissistic.”
“There are just some people who aren’t meant to be parents,” she said.
The obituary — and her TikTok videos — really struck a chord with others online who have dealt with abusive parents or had significantly strained relationships.
Hundreds of commenters have cheered the woman on and shared their own stories in the comments of her videos.
“I can only imagine how cathartic that writing was.”
“Wrote a letter to my mother that we called the Cold North Wind. Everything I ever felt for her, I wrote. Ten pages. Laughing and put in her urn.’
“I’m sorry you had to go through this all your life. I applaud you for standing up for your family and showing others that they are not alone.”
“I’m so sorry for the pain and anguish you’ve been through. The obituary was perfection.”
This is the Penticton Regional Hospital where Kandulski died
Denis said she hopes others feel compelled to share their own stories and speak their truth when it comes to a painful subject.
She urges others to go beyond the polished pieces that typically appear on Facebook or Instagram and tell the real truth of their lives.
“We see the glorified lives we all seem to be living, but we don’t get to see these things – the things that matter, the things that hurt us, and the things that turn us into the people we are today,” says she.
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Furthermore, she said no one in her family objected to her obituary because they understood “what kind of man he really was.”
The final message in the obituary was a call to action, which in lieu of flowers asked, “just be kind to your fellow man, spread light and love where you can, and do with your life what this man clearly was not capable of doing.” . Doing.’