A woman has been criticized for wanting to lie to her best friend about why she couldn’t go to her destination wedding.
The 32-year-old said she will be a bridesmaid at her best friend Kayla’s overseas wedding in four months, but will have to spend at least $8,000 to do so, using up all her savings.
To get out of paying the “insane” amount of money, she considers lying to the bride by telling her she can’t attend because she needs to spend her savings on a major home repair, when in reality she’s using the money to to go on holiday. vacation with her husband.
People agreed that $8,000 was an “outlandish” price to pay, but called out the bridesmaid for her dishonesty.
Kayla organizes a seven-day affair for her wedding in a ‘small’ town in the far north of Scandinavia, where her fiancé is from.
A bridesmaid said she wants to lie to her friend because she can’t afford to go to her destination wedding. Instead, she uses her money to go on vacation with her husband
She had to move the date forward a year due to family pressure, leaving guests with just four months to plan the trip.
“Between flights, the hotel, the rental car, the bridesmaid dress, the full traditional outfit to be worn for some events, pet boarding and general incidentals, and we’re looking at a minimum of $8,000,” the woman said. a Reddit post.
She added that almost all of the city’s lodging options for Midsommar are fully booked, with places still costing more than $300 a night, and that all of the groom’s family’s guest rooms have been claimed.
The bridesmaid said Kayla was “very apologetic” about changing the date, but failed to acknowledge the “huge impact” it would have on her guests.
For the past four years, she and her husband have been saving for a three-week tour of Japan to celebrate their 10th anniversary, and she booked flights for the trip just before Kayla announced the date change.
“Kayla didn’t know I had just booked flights and when she told me the news she basically said, ‘You’re so lucky, you saved all that money for a vacation!'” she said.
The woman feels guilty for prioritizing her anniversary trip over her wedding when Kayla spent thousands of dollars on her wedding years ago.
“My husband and I got married right after college in Alaska, when most of our friends, including Kayla, didn’t have particularly good or secure jobs,” she said.
“We now know this wasn’t exactly fair of us, but we split the rent on a large house with all our friends and flights to Alaska don’t come close to the $2,000 it would cost us to go to Kayla’s wedding.” to fly.’
She said she’s “afraid” to tell Kayla the real reason why she and her husband aren’t going to her wedding because she thinks it will ruin their friendship.
‘I could see why that would be the case. She was a bridesmaid for me when things were much less financially secure than we are now, and she knows we saved a lot of money for travel,” she said.
“I’m afraid she’ll wonder if our friendship isn’t worth canceling our plans and flights to Japan.” Our friendship means a lot to me, but I don’t think it’s fair to plan such an expensive wedding and expect me to cancel our dream trip in order to make it happen.”
The woman wants to lie to the bride and tell her to use her savings for a ‘major house repair’ instead of the $8,000 wedding
The bridesmaid she said wants to lie about having to make a “major repair to the house,” which will cost everything she and her husband have saved, plus a little more to get to the wedding.
“When it came time for the trip to Asia, she said we had received the trip as a gift from my husband’s parents,” she said.
‘I know there is a risk that she will find out the truth and become even angrier. Is that risk worth not telling her the truth?’
Users were torn over the bridesmaid’s dilemma that even though $8,000 was an “unreasonable” amount to pay, she shouldn’t be unfair to Kayla.
“$8,000 is a crazy amount of money to ask someone to pay to come to a wedding. Ever. Point. The answer is: ‘We just can’t afford that. We already booked our holiday to Japan not knowing you were going to change the date and we can’t do that,” one person said.
‘Your actual reason is sufficient. Making something up would only make it unreliable. Tell her the truth.’
“You’re not an asshole if you don’t want to spend $8,000 to go to a wedding. But you’re the one trying to make up an elaborate lie. Just be honest and talk to your friend,” a second agreed.
“Grow up and bite the bullet,” one person added.
Others condemned the bride for expecting her guests to spend so much money on her wedding, calling her “self-centered.”
“Anyway, f*** that wedding. She is a good friend because she expects someone to use the money from their dream vacation for a wedding,” one person wrote.