Forget the Red Wedding – a woman has sent out a wedding invitation that is riddled with so many warning signs that it’s a bloodbath.
The guest, who is believed to be from the US, posted her horror story on Reddit. She was furious after being invited to her childhood friend’s wedding with her husband, but with a number of conditions.
“I picked up the card and read it. Even though my husband was invited… I was in the other room helping to babysit the kids there,” wrote the Reddit user, who posts under the name EdenCapwell.
Eden explained that the bride and groom had told her there would be a special area for the children in the church, but that she would not be sitting in the pews to watch the ceremony.
“I still have to get dressed for a wedding, in case I’m in the photo, but I would go to the reception with the kids and be present at the ceremony,” the stunned woman said.
The guest, who is believed to be from the US, posted her horror story on Reddit. She was furious after she and her husband were invited to her childhood friend’s wedding, but with a few caveats (stock image)
“I picked up the note and read it, and even though my husband was invited… I would be in another room helping babysit all the kids there,” wrote the Reddit user, who posts as EdenCapwell.
The 50-year-old then delivered the blow: they also had to pay $100 for their meals
“We have a link to pay if we RSVP digitally,” she shared. “There was also a link for their gift registry.”
The woman said that not only did she feel insulted, but she is disabled and requires a wheelchair and oxygen tank, which makes it difficult to babysit.
“I’m not proud of it, but it’s true. I could happily sit in a room and WATCH children, but I would be pretty useless at preventing a fall or preventing a child from choking or anything else that requires me to act quickly,” she added.
The woman added that she had been friends with the couple for a long time, and not her husband, which confused her even more.
“Why would he be invited to attend the ceremony and be part of the reception, but not me?” she asked.
“My husband said he would be happy to babysit and let me go to the wedding and reception, but the invitation said that only other FEMALE guests would babysit, so I doubt they would let him. It’s just plain rudeness on my part.”
The woman, who explained that her late mother was friends with the bride’s grandmother, said about 200 people were invited. She said she loves children and, although she has no biological children of her own, she and her husband are parental figures to some of the young adults.
Eventually, the truth came out when the bride’s mother revealed she didn’t want the woman’s wheelchair or oxygen tank to be in the photos (stock photo)
Reddit users were shocked by her story and shared their thoughts on the post, saying it was “tasteless”
In an update at the top of the post, the woman said she had spoken to her friend, the bride’s mother, and told her she was quite upset about the situation, which ended in a huge argument.
“I told her I understood that the guests were upset because it’s just tacky to 1) be asked to pay and 2) be told you’re invited but only to babysit. I told her I wouldn’t babysit. Not at all. No. Just no,” she shared.
The bride’s mother admitted that guests had criticized the fact that they had to pay for their own meals, but she was still furious that she would not babysit. She said that as lifelong friends, she would be helping them more by babysitting than “just sitting in a pew and watching.”
“I reminded her that I couldn’t physically help at all because I’m legally disabled,” she said.
The woman was told that they understood she could not physically help, but that they wanted her to ‘supervise’ along with the other caregivers and that they trusted her the most.
She responded by telling the bride’s mother that she found it insulting when told she was babysitting.
I didn’t feel like [babysit]“especially not in formal attire,” she raged.
However, an update revealed the real reason the woman was asked to babysit. They admitted they didn’t know if she would be using a walker or sitting in one that day, and if she did, it would ‘ruin the video’. [and] photos.’
After the woman said she could sit in the pew and her husband could hide the wheelchair in the back, the bride’s mother told her that the oxygen tank she was using would take up too much space.
“I said, ‘No, I wouldn’t do that. I wouldn’t take a bag with me and the oxygen tank sits on my lap or between my feet.’ (It’s like a little backpack),” she replied, only to be told that the oxygen tank would be “distracting.”
“And there you have it. Words were exchanged and she hung up. I have not been removed from social media YET, but I expect to be,” the woman reported.
“I feel terrible already that I’m like this at 50. I didn’t choose this. I didn’t want this. If she hates having it photographed… imagine living with it,” she continued.
“That’s what I told her before she hung up. I’m devastated. Just devastated.”
Reddit users were shocked by her story and shared their thoughts on the post.
“This is not your friend,” one user responded.
“I wonder if this was done on purpose – like they felt like they had to invite OP (possibly because of their family’s expectations of long-term friends), but they deliberately included a note to make OP as uncomfortable as possible and make sure he wouldn’t want to come,” mused another.
‘Agreed. This whole wedding sounds so tacky. Such a lack of class to not only exclude guests, make them work, and then expect them to pay for their own meal AND provide a gift? That’s a BIG YES NO,’ another Reddit user responded.
“Given that OP has a very obvious and visible disability, I have to assume she ‘didn’t fit’ the bride’s ‘aesthetic’ for the wedding,” they added.