Bride slammed for breaking every ‘unwritten rule’ for her $20,000 wedding: ‘She had fun, the guests didn’t’

A mother has had a row with her newlywed daughter after admitting her wedding was a disaster and guests had turned it into a ‘running joke’.

The couple spent $20,000 on their wedding, but didn’t feed the guests, didn’t provide drinks, didn’t hire any entertainment and even had a fake inedible cake that left attendees hungry, bored and “crazy.”

A year later, the bride turned to her mother when she heard that her sister and other attendees were speaking badly about the wedding – and she got an honest opinion.

The mother said that while the bride enjoyed the wedding, it wasn’t a very good experience for the guests, prompting her daughter to call her “cruel” and a “jerk.”

Hundreds sided with the mother and were shocked that the newlyweds did not accommodate their guests.

“Am I the asshole for being honest and telling my daughter that her wedding is a running joke of what not to do when marrying into our family/friend group?” she asked on Reddit.

‘My daughter got married about a year ago. She spent about $20,000 on her wedding, it was a great experience for her, but for all the guests it was really bad. All the money went to things the couple would enjoy.”

The mother said the couple spent most of the money on the bride’s $6,000 dress, the venue and a photographer and that she was not involved in the planning because she had medical problems.

‘Guests had to buy food and drinks and no entertainment. So people go to the wedding and the ceremony takes place, and then they are taken to another room after a long day of driving, without food and drinks,” she explained.

‘Most of them were forced to buy overpriced food because they were starving. They didn’t even get a cake because the cake was fake. Overall not a good guest experience.’

The bride’s mother said people started complaining and disapproved of the wedding long afterward.

The bride’s mother said guests joked about her daughter’s disastrous wedding a year later

‘My other daughter is getting married and has asked for my help. Her sister offered to help and my other daughter made it clear that she doesn’t want her wedding to be anything like hers,” she said.

‘My daughter asked what she meant by that and I was honest with her. That her wedding was not a good experience for the guests and that it is currently a joke among family/friends.’

The woman did not take the honesty well and got into an argument with her mother.

However, many agreed with the mother that the bride should have taken her guests more into account when planning her wedding.

‘Make guests pay for their food? No entertainment? THE CAKE WAS A LIE?,” said one user.

‘Yes, if I were a guest I would be angry too! Actually, it would be a story I would probably tell for the rest of my life. That’s a bad wedding,” wrote a second.

‘Some people are so focused on themselves that they cannot or do not want to see the situation through the eyes of others. Your daughter and her husband sound like this because it should have been clear to them that they were creating a very bad experience for their guests,” a third agreed.

‘You were honest. It’s been a year, it’s fine. She asked and you answered. Maybe you could have left out the fact that it was a running joke. But how on earth can anyone spend $20,000 when they have no food?” another agreed.

“If I showed up at a wedding and it was cash food and a cash bar, I would leave,” one person added.

However, some people thought the mother should have been kinder.

“There’s fair, and then there’s brutally honest. You should have said it more kindly and left out the fact that “everyone thought it was a joke.” That was cruel,” one woman said.

“You didn’t have to tell her that her wedding was a running joke with friends and family. It seems like you wanted to throw it in her face that you didn’t approve of her marriage, there are definitely much nicer ways to tell her,” another replied.