Bride left ‘shocked and upset’ after 70 per cent of her wedding guests failed to offer gift or card
- The unnamed newlywed took to Reddit to vent her frustrations
- She revealed that she didn’t expect to be showered with gifts
- However, she was angry that her good friends did not give her anything
A bride wonders if it’s okay for her to be “shocked” and “upset” after most of the guests showed up at her wedding without offering a gift or card.
The unnamed bride and groom took to Reddit to express their disappointment that more than half of those in attendance arrived empty-handed on their special day.
She said she hadn’t expected to be showered with gifts or money, but was still disappointed to learn that her guests hadn’t taken the time to congratulate her with a note.
In a thread with the simple title WeddingThe bride begged people on the web to give her advice and validate her feelings.
The woman said she was “shocked” that even the people she and her husband are close to did not bring a gift to celebrate the occasion.
A bride wonders if she’s wrong for being ‘angry’ after ’70 percent’ of her guests showed up to her wedding without offering a gift or card (stock image)
The unnamed new bride took to Reddit to reveal she was disappointed after more than half of the attendees arrived empty-handed for her special day
She titled the post, βIs it okay to be angry?β
‘[I] βI recently had a wedding and probably 70 percent of the guests didn’t give a gift/card,β the blushing bride revealed at the beginning of the post.
The woman indicated that she did not necessarily expect to be showered with expensive gifts, but that she did expect to at least receive a card from her loved ones.
She added: ‘I don’t expect to be showered with gifts or money or anything, but I am shocked that people who are dear to us don’t even take the time to give us a $0.50 card or a homemade card or something to congratulate us, when weddings in general are quite expensive.’
People on the Internet jumped on the comments and echoed the bride’s sentiments, stressing that her feelings were justified.
Someone said, “Not even giving a card? That’s rude!! I don’t think it’s wrong to be disappointed. 70 percent is a lot.”
Someone else added: ‘Yes, I think it’s okay to be angry. It’s the most special day of your life, and money/gifts aside, I think it’s really rude when guests don’t at least write you a card to wish you well.’
Another user wrote: ‘That’s really shocking! If I couldn’t afford to send my child to a birthday party without a gift, my child wouldn’t be there. At least bring a gift card or cash if you don’t know what to pack.’
People online flooded the comments section and echoed the bride’s sentiments, insisting she was right to be angry
βOf course it’s okay to be angry,β another user responded.
Wedding etiquette has long been a topic of discussion. One professional has weighed in on everything from what dress to wear to how much to spend on a gift.
According to New York expert Myka Meier, you should always bring a gift, but you should also assess how close you are to the bride and groom.
She said, βAs for the right amount of a gift, it depends on your relationship with the bride and groom.
‘The average amount spent on a gift is between $50 and $100. However, if it’s for a close friend or family member’s wedding, it could be $150 or more.
“You may want to spend more if only one person comes than if only one person comes.”