Breakup recovery coach reveals simple ‘self-soothing’ technique that will help anyone to overcome heartbreak after a split

A break-up recovery coach has revealed the various ‘self-soothing’ techniques she believes can help anyone overcome the heartbreak over a romantic relationship.

Darlene Kollet is an expert in helping people recover from a case of the blues after a relationship ends.

She regularly shares advice on how to move on after having your heart broken on her TikTok account, where she has more than 249,000 followers.

Most recently, Darlene took to the video-sharing platform to explain why regulating your nervous system while dealing with a breakup is crucial when it comes to healing — while lifting the lid on the practices that can help you increase your happiness while grieving for the loss of your partner. your relationship.

Darlene Kollet is an expert in helping people recover from the blues after a relationship ends

She captioned the viral video, which has nearly 11,000 views to date, “Learning to regulate emotions after a breakup.”

“If you want to get through a breakup, you have to become a master at calming yourself down.

‘You have to know how to regulate your emotions every day. You’re going to want them to regulate your emotions for you – that’s why we reach for the ex so often after a breakup, we can’t do it ourselves, we don’t know how to calm ourselves down,” she said near the beginning of the video.

The coach noted that while it is difficult to find a “moment to calm yourself down” during a breakup, it is crucial to move on.

Darlene explained that there are many techniques you can use, but you have to find what works for you.

She added: ‘It’s good to have a good cry, get outside and do a bit of exercise – physical activity is huge for that, and deep breathing is huge.

“So start figuring out what works for you, what will calm you down, what will calm you down for one second, sometimes that’s just all we need.”

The heartbreak expert said you should tackle the breakup “minute by minute.”

People flooded the comments section, praising the breakup coach for her advice

She then listed several self-soothing techniques you could try.

“Call a friend, read a book, watch TV, go outside and take a walk, meditate, pray, do what you can and see how it works for you,” she said.

Then the expert said that after you find the different things that work for you, you should “stick with it” and practice them when you feel upset or angry.

People flooded the comments section, praising the breakup coach for her advice.

One person said: ‘These videos come just in time for me… I’m on the struggle bus.’

Someone else wrote: ‘I’m very dependent and this helps a lot, thank you.’

“Temps teach permanent classes,” someone else said.

Another person said: ‘You are so amazing! I try to find you every day.”