A bride-to-be has been branded “indecent” and “tasteless” over the “appalling” rules in her wedding invitation, including a strict all-black dress code.
The woman shared a clear list of rules for her friends and family to follow, because she wanted her wedding day to be ‘perfect’.
She said guests must wear only black, there will be no plus-ones and children under 10 will not be allowed to attend the “technology-free” wedding.
The bride warned that violators of the rules will be asked to leave.
“Keep in mind that a wedding should be perfect for the couple and these details make that a reality for us,” the bride said.
‘Wear only solid black. No black and white or other colors – including belts and ties. No small children under 10.
“Those who don’t will be asked to leave by my coordinator without my knowledge. This can make or break the evening, as can the photos and videos we have in mind.”
The bride explained that plus ones were “not automatically given with every invitation.”
A bride has been branded ‘naughty’ and ‘tasteless’ over ‘horrible’ details in her wedding invitation
“We reserve space first for the people closest to us,” she said.
‘If you want to bring someone we know, please ask so we can make sure there is food, alcohol and snacks ready for him or her.
‘Every guest has been paid and we don’t want there to be a shortage of money.’
The woman explained that she had to come clean about the no’s because her family had decided to invite other people to her wedding without telling her.
“My brother already assumed that everyone he knew would come to my wedding, (including) people I hadn’t spoken to in 10 years and who had never met my fiancé,” she said.
‘A guest wanted to bring his four small children, despite my request not to bring small children, because “they are family and therefore don’t count”. They are literally the reason I don’t invite small children, because they are relentless.
‘Some random person we run into sometimes who we barely know… said something like “apparently I’m invited to your party as a plus one.” So that’s the reason behind the strong wording.’
The bride said she asked guests to arrive at 3:30 p.m. for the 4 p.m. ceremony because she was afraid her family would be late.
“My family is a real country family and they don’t really care about formal occasions. Nobody knows how to dress and they think I’m too fancy, but we have a very formal, expensive wedding that we’ve been planning for two years,” she explains.
“I know my family will be the ones who, despite the requested attire, show up 30 minutes late in the middle of the ceremony with their two-year-old children and five friends I don’t know – when I haven’t specifically told them not to.”
The bride said she felt “stressed” but hoped her family would abide by her rules so she could have her dream wedding.
The bride warned that violators of the rules will be asked to leave the wedding (stock image)
Her dilemma was re-shared on the Facebook group That’s it, I’m wedding shaming, with many pointing out that the bride was not the problem.
“Honestly, her family sounds like a nightmare,” one person said.
“Her reasoning is sound, the invitation is just not worded well. If she has family like that, it would be better to just walk away,” another suggested.
“I… have to agree with her. If her family is as bad as she claims, then she might have to be a complete b**** to get her point across,” someone else added.
Others suggested the bride tone down the instructions a bit, while others criticised her for the ‘tasteless’ and ‘horrible’ rules.
“Her requests aren’t outrageous, but they need to be edited so she doesn’t sound like an idiot,” one person said.
“This is very poorly worded and comes across as a rude bridezilla,” added another.
Meanwhile, many took issue with the bride’s choice of font, with one joking: ‘That’s it, I’m font-shaming’.
“The font! Horrible. The words! Horrible,” said one.
“I can barely read that font. I’m sure Uncle Cletus won’t try,” shared another.
“If you tell me in capital letters what to do I WON’T DO IT,” one person wrote.
“I got a migraine just reading that. The font, the words all jumbled up and all in capitals – most people said they couldn’t even read it. I would happily skip this wedding.”