Bethenny Frankel confesses that she used to ‘force’ herself to have sex with ex-husband Jason Hoppy because it was ‘pure torture’

Bethenny Frankel shared some hard confessions this week about her unhappy marriage to second husband Jason Hoppy.

The 53-year-old Real Housewives Of New York City alumna spoke on her podcast Just B divorced about the rapid decline in affection between the two and admitted that over time she had to “force” herself to have sex with Hoppy, 53, because she was so uninterested in being intimate with him.

Things eventually became so terrible between the two that the reality star felt “relieved” when she suffered a miscarriage after six weeks.

Bethenny – who showed off her slim figure in a blue bikini earlier this month – started dating Hoppy in 2008, and the couple married in 2010 but split in 2012.

She filed for divorce in 2013, and the arduous process took years, with the exes agreeing to a custody arrangement in 2014 and a financial settlement in 2016, but the divorce wasn’t fully finalized until 2021, nearly a decade after they split used to go. .

She and Hoppy, 53, started dating in 2008 and married in 2010. They separated in 2012, but their divorce wasn’t finalized until 2021; pictured in 2010 in LA

Lately, Bethenny has been detailing the painful saga of her divorce in her new podcast.

According to Bethenny, their occasional sex episodes became increasingly difficult for her as she and Jason grew further apart.

Her lack of desire for her husband led him to accuse her of being cold in bed.

“We were in bed and he would always say to me, ‘You’re like a block of ice,’ because I didn’t want to be intimate, I didn’t want to have sex,” she said.

According to her, the core of the problem was that she simply no longer respected her husband.

“I didn’t want to have sex at all,” she continued. “He always said to me, ‘It feels like this bed is a block of ice.’

When they had sex later in their relationship, Bethenny had to do everything she could to “force” herself to perform, even though she found the experience nauseating.

“I used to force myself, fool myself while I was doing it,” she said. “It was torture.”

Despite her discomfort and her attempts to be intimate with Jason, it wasn’t until Bethenny became pregnant again – having previously welcomed her daughter Bryn, now 13 – and subsequently suffered a miscarriage at six weeks, that she “took the first step” could put’ to talk. about how unhappy she was with the relationship.

“In a constructive way, I said, ‘I’m a little relieved… because I don’t think this is a healthy or positive relationship,’” she recalled telling Jason.

However, he found nothing positive about the experience.

“He said to me, ‘You’re a real piece of shit, you know that?'” she claimed, before noting it was a “total relief” when he decided to spend the next few days in a hotel. without hair.

Bethenny will likely delve into darker aspects of her divorce, such as Jason’s arrest in 2017 for allegedly stalking her.

“We were in bed and he would always say to me, ‘You’re like a block of ice,’ because I didn’t want to be intimate, I didn’t want to have sex,” she said

When they had sex later in their relationship, Bethenny had to do everything she could to “force” herself to perform, even though she said the experience would “gag” her; seen in 2012 in New York

Bethenny and Jason share daughter Bryn, 12. She admitted that a second pregnancy that ended in miscarriage was a relief; pictured in 2010 on Bethenny Getting Married

More recently, she has been happier with film producer and real estate developer Paul Bernon, whom she started dating later in 2018. They got engaged in 2021.

He steadfastly denied her claims and accepted a plea deal that required him to avoid Bethenny for six months — as mandated by a restraining order — after which the case would be dismissed.

After her divorce, the former Real Housewife dated banker Dennis Shields for two years, until his death in 2018.

More recently, she seemed happier than ever in her relationship with film producer and real estate developer Paul Bernon, whom she started dating later in 2018.

The lovebirds got engaged in 2021.