One of Australia’s top OnlyFans models has revealed exactly what it’s like to date while working in the sex industry.
Lucy Banks, 31, says she has high standards when it comes to dating.
“In an industry that thrives on authenticity, trust and transparency, it’s important to me to seek the same level of loyalty and honesty in my relationships,” she said.
The single mother of two quickly gained financial security for the first time after launching her online career.
But some men are uncomfortable with her popularity and the content she ‘puts out’.
Lucy Banks, pictured, says she has high standards when it comes to dating
She has found that jealousy is the biggest problem in her recent affairs.
“Some men don’t like the idea of my private information out there for the world to see, or strange men knowing who I am when we go shopping. This is completely fair and understandable, and you are not the man for me,” she said.
And it’s not just emotional jealousy, there’s financial jealousy as well.
“It’s bad enough when men get upset that I talk to other men on OnlyFans for work; it’s worse if they also resent how much money I make,” she said.
She has also had issues with infidelity.
“Men think it’s okay to talk to other women and not be loyal to me because of my job, and that’s unacceptable. Being in a committed relationship means unwavering loyalty and open communication; I will not tolerate secrecy or infidelity,” she said.
Lucy said people think they are going to date the woman they see online, which is not the case.
“My OnlyFans persona drives my business, but when you’re with me, you’re with the real me — authentic and honest,” she said.
“My career success shows that I take good care of myself, know how to pay attention to the needs of others, and am disciplined and committed to my work.”
The mother of two says men are jealous of her financial strength and that it’s her job to talk to men online
She says it takes a very safe, open-minded and honest man to drag her out of the dating scene.
Lucy previously joked that she is the “favorite mom on school pick up,” referring to the dads being much kinder than the moms.
The cheeky comment she says was meant to be a light-hearted joke. But instead she was ridiculed by strangers.
‘Guess why I’m the favorite mom among school dads. Not a serious guess,” she wrote alongside a winking emoji.
The single mother from Perth recorded herself sitting in the car outside the school gates and shared the clip online where it has been viewed 1.7 million times.
In 2019, Lucy decided to quit her 9-5 bank job and start her OnlyFans career. Today, she brings in between $35,000 and $60,000 each month.
Lucy recently made a cheeky comment about being the favorite mom at the school gate and made headlines
‘Guess why I’m the favorite mom among school dads. Not a serious guess,” she wrote in a TikTok video alongside a winking emoji
“Because you’re humble?” one asked, while another wrote, “Because you love yourself?”
“No ring… that’s why,” a third added. Another said, “You’re reversing into a parking lot.”
Others were much more ruthless and one person wrote, “I can’t think of anything, sorry.”
Another questioned her comment, asking, “How do you know? did they tell you?’
Lucy responded to the backlash by telling FEMAIL that she believes “those who are hurt tend to only hurt others.”
“No one who is happy or successful spends time trolling on TikTok,” she said.
“As long as I can go to bed every night knowing I haven’t personally hurt anyone or done anything mean, I don’t mind all the resistance. Water off a duck’s back.’
Nearly 4,000 people reacted to the clip with witty replies, some more hurtful than others. Lucy responded to the backlash by telling FEMAIL that she believes “those who are hurt tend to only hurt others.” “No one who is happy or successful spends time trolling on TikTok,” she said
She added that the video “wasn’t meant to be serious.”
“I’m just a content creator striving for views. It’s amazing how a simple caption can elicit thousands of responses,” Lucy continued.
“As the responses poured in, I was unexpectedly hospitalized for an unrelated matter.
“It was an incredibly upsetting experience to be in the hospital, trying to communicate with my family while at the same time seeing a constant stream of reports full of hurtful messages that questioned my character.”
Last year’s self-proclaimed ‘hot mom’ bought an investment property for her sons with the earnings of OnlyFans.
She says the X-rated platform gives her the freedom to be a better parent to her elementary school-aged boys and her new purchase is proof of that.
“My eldest son did school banking earlier this year and immediately questioned his teacher about the deposit rate. I wish I had such financial acumen when I was 20, let alone before I was 10,” she said.
When Lucy, who bought her first home in 2021, started talking about building an investment property, the kids immediately wanted to know more and how they could contribute.
Last year, Lucy bought an investment property for her sons with the income from OnlyFans
My kids both gave me $100 to ‘invest’ in this new home; once we get tenants in, they’ll both get $5.50 a week.”
Lucy said her boys came up with the idea and made $100 each by doing chores and saving birthday money over a period of time.
“It didn’t even occur to me to involve the kids in buying investment properties, but my oldest son is so excited and constantly talking to me about how to maximize their investment,” said Lucy.
“They’ve already figured out that by the time they’re adults themselves, they’ll have enough for their own home deposits — all of this first $100 down payment as kids.”
Lucy is aware of the potential future challenges her children may face once they reach adulthood in the real estate market.
“Buying a home is such a huge hurdle. As a single mother, it would have been impossible for me to buy a house without OnlyFans. There are plenty of people who will judge me on my work, but I’m so grateful to be able to take care of my kids so they don’t have to struggle like I’ve had to,” she said.
“My boys will not receive handouts or trust funds, but I will put them through the best schools and I will help them be financially smart. The rest is up to them.
She added, “They also make typical kid choices like spending money on Roblox and chocolates!” But in the end they are conservative about saving the money they earn.’
When Lucy, who had bought her first home 10 months earlier, started talking about building an investment property, the kids immediately wanted to know more and how they could contribute.
Lucy is open about her new career choice and is delighted with her new ability to navigate both her lifestyle and her children’s busy schedules.
“My children attend two different private schools that cater to their individual needs; it takes me three hours every day to do the school run, but it’s worth it,” she said.
“After school I help with homework, cook dinner and put them to bed. My current job gives me the flexibility to do that…my previous job didn’t.’
In an earlier conversation with FEMAIL, the creator said women from all walks of life have approached her to ask about her work on the platform.
“I’ve heard many friends ask about it. Nurses, doctors, teachers, a friend who works in car sales, administration, and also stay-at-home moms,” she said.
“It’s hard for people to take the plunge because of the stigma. But from where I sit, it’s like a lot of women would love to do OnlyFans. It’s just the stigma that holds them back.’
The career move was not an easy one and Lucy has seen how passionate some people are when it comes to getting to know someone in the adult industry.
“We are being judged so harshly – we are being torn to shreds online. I’ve had to get multiple restraining orders against jealous and angry women,” she said.
“I endure so much criticism, but it’s worth being fully present with my boys’ childhood, being able to babysit for another parent and buy a house and promise my kids that the power will never be turned off again.
‘I work so hard; it’s not an easy job. To be honest, the hardest thing about it is trying to exist in society between people’s slander and judgment.
“Say all you want about me, but I feel like the happiest mother ever.”
But she is passionate about her chosen career and says she would do it all again in a heartbeat.