A psychologist has discovered nine signs that you may be overresponsible – including worrying about standing out from others.
Birmingham-based psychologist Dr Lalitaa Suglani, who offers courses on topics including anxiety management, overcoming fear and imposter syndrome, took to Instagram to share information on the subject recently. POST.
The list of nine signs was accompanied by an extensive caption in which Dr Lalitaa discussed being overly responsible.
In the caption, the psychologist described over-responsible people as ‘people pleasers’.
She added that they ‘repress and repress themselves to prioritize others and to minimize or eliminate conflict, criticism, rejection, disappointment and loss’.
Are you overly responsible? A psychologist has discovered nine signs – including a concern to outdo others (stock image)
According to Dr Suglani: “They often do good things for the wrong reasons because they don’t know any other way of coping (we can unlearn this way of being).
She added that there are many reasons why people learn to become extra responsible.
On the list of nine signs you may be responsible is feeling guilty about saying no.
Trying to get or ask for help is another sign, as is anxiety about being withdrawn from others.
Those who are overly responsive are likely to find that they prioritize their own needs, expectations, and needs.
In addition, they assume that others will not take responsibility, so they end up taking it on themselves.
According to the list, another sign of being over-responsible is aiming for extreme independence.
Picking up on other people’s emotions and playing therapist with family or friends were also on the list of nine signs.
The last sign is feeling resentful when people feel entitled to your kindness and support.
However, according to the psychologist, there are steps you can take if you are too responsible.
Writing in the caption of the post, she shared five points to keep in mind.
The first said: ‘Set your limits! Boundaries are where we begin and another person ends.’
She added: ‘Boundaries are about YOU and your needs.’
According to Dr Suglani: “You cannot change other people.
“You have to decide what you’re willing to put up with.”
She concluded: ‘Don’t stress about someone’s negative response, we have no control over how they react and not everyone will like us.’
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