A young woman has revealed how she was not invited to her friend’s wedding and never spoken to again after breaking a little-known ‘hen party rule’.
Amy Dickinson said her former boyfriend abused her for uploading a photo from a “hen party” to Instagram before she had the chance.
The bride’s mother then yelled at Amy for the “disrespectful” act before the bride told her she “didn’t have to treat her like a dog.” She just had to know the rules without being told.
The stunned Queenslander said the hen party, held over a weekend on Hamilton Island in August 2019, was the first she had attended.
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Amy was dumped by her girlfriend after breaking an unspoken ‘hen night rule’
She said other people in the group had also posted photos online without being reprimanded, adding to her confusion.
“I didn’t understand this was protocol,” she said in a video on TikTok that has gone viral.
She also shared the offending photo: a photo of the picturesque holiday island she took from the plane window.
Amy said people were ‘walking on eggshells’ all weekend – after their friend turned into a ‘total bridezilla’, with her mum’s full support.
The bride-to-be and her mother were furious with Amy for uploading this photo – from the hen weekend – before they had a chance to upload anything
The young blonde had almost made it through the weekend without feeling her friend’s wrath, but at the last dinner, things took a wild turn.
The bride asked people not to be on their phones too much, but allowed them to take photos.
One of the other women on the trip started taking pictures of Amy and her “friend,” the bride.
‘All hell broke loose. The bride was losing her shit. She said, ‘Stop taking pictures of me, I don’t even want these pictures, they’re going to be dirty,'” she said.
“The poor girl who took the pictures ran to the bathroom crying, so I ran after her,” Amy said.
Little did she know that following her distraught friend would get her kicked out of the group.
Amy spent $650 on this Alice McCall dress for the wedding – paid for a business class flight and spent $500 on accommodation – but was relieved when she didn’t have to go
When she returned to the table, the bride said she felt too embarrassed to stay in the restaurant.
So they arranged taxis and made an appointment to meet at the next place.
Amy and the girl who cried shared a car and everyone else shared the other. But Amy said the bride and the rest of her crew never showed up.
Then her mother called and berated her for being disrespectful when she wondered why they had decided to go somewhere else.
Eventually they met the group, but Amy was ignored by the bride, her friend.
“She turned away from me like it was the most embarrassing thing to be sitting next to me. “I started apologizing to the group,” she said.
At the time, Amy thought the bride was angry because she had gotten up to comfort her other friend.
This photo was also taken on Hamilton Island during the trip, but was uploaded after the two ended their friendship
“I wanted to explain that I didn’t choose my other friend over her, I just wanted to see if she was okay.”
But then the discussion took a turn.
“Suddenly this fight became about Instagram,” she said.
This became clear when the bride’s mother ‘took over’ the conversation and started pointing her finger in Amy’s face, shouting.
Amy re-enacted the awkward moment, pretending to be the irate mother: “How dare you upload a photo in front of my daughter at the bachelorette party.
The fight continued and the bride kicked Amy and the other friend out of the hotel room and refused to allow them access to their belongings.
Amy said she panicked because at this point she didn’t know if the bride and her mother would be petty enough to withhold their plane tickets.
She played the irate mother of the bride in the viral video
The next morning, Amy tried to apologize to the bride and make things right, but the irate chicken told her that she “didn’t have to treat her like a dog and tell her right from wrong.”
The rest of the people in the group declined to participate, but someone did give Amy a “sorry” look and a big hug before they all went home.
The next day she received a phone call.
Her friend told her that she had been thinking about what happened that weekend and that she would not feel comfortable being at the wedding.
The other woman, who had been crying in the bathroom, was not invited in the first place and therefore could not be dumped from the exclusive guest list.
Amy revealed she was relieved by the bride’s decision and said it would be a nightmare to be on another island with her for the big day.
She then hung up, blocked the bride, her mother and some friends on social media and decided never to speak again.
Amy said she was shocked by the tragedy and had never been treated so badly in her life
She changed her flight and went on holiday with her mother and sister instead – and weeks later wore the designer dress she bought for that day to another friend’s wedding.
Amy said her friends had heard different stories about the weekend, including that she wasn’t invited to the wedding because she “had sex with someone on a yacht.”
She said the fabricated and “sl*t-shaming” excuse made her think her former friend was too ashamed to tell people the real reason for the breakup.
A million people watched Amy tell the story on TikTok – where she explained that the bride’s behavior was “the meanest thing anyone has ever been to her.”
But the video was divisive online.
“Dude, you shouldn’t have posted the photo,” one woman said.
Another labeled the narrator “immature” and said the fight was avoidable.
But others were shocked.
“I’m a bride-to-be and I don’t understand how anyone has the energy to be like that,” one woman said.
“This is embarrassing, I hope she sees it,” another added.