It was American socialite Wallis Simpson who famously said: ‘You can never be too rich or too thin.’
It certainly worked for her. King Edward VIII was so in love with Wallis that he abdicated the throne and married her.
High five, Wallis. That’s some girl power!
But that was 1936 and, let’s face it, men were men in those days. They wrote tearful love letters from muddy wartime trenches, dueled love rivals and serenaded women from outside their windows.
These days you’d be hard-pressed to get a man to leave his living room, let alone the crown, and if you’re lucky enough to score an invite to his local pub, you’ll most likely be asked to split the bill. and get ghosted the next day.
Wallis would turn in her grave.
Dina Broadhurst is hot and successful, but last month she was single again
In today’s modern world, especially in Sydney’s eastern suburbs, I firmly believe that the more beautiful and successful a woman is, the more likely she is to remain single forever, and I’ve been proven right time and time again.
Before you scoff and think this column is about me, it isn’t.
It’s about the successful ‘It’ women in their forties. Radio presenter Jackie O, artist Dina Broadhurst and TV presenter and model Laura Csortan are just a few that come to mind. They’re sexy, stylish, financially independent, and, as far as I know, all single.
I’m willing to bet that all mothers, and all with successful careers, don’t exactly need a man’s money, children, status, or hand in marriage. But hey, we all get lonely, and it can be nice to have someone to come home to.
And I feel like therein lies the problem. Not these women need Gentlemen. And this is not a good thing if you are looking for love.
Call me cynical, call me a Debbie Downer, but if anyone knows men, it’s me, after ten years of listening to them in my previous life as Samantha
There’s one thing I heard from them over and over again about their search for love: Men don’t just like to feel needed, they need to feel needed.
And really, successful women in their 40s don’t need men. Why would they?
You can’t get more famous and successful than Jackie O – yet her relationship with toyboy tradie model Jack Tyerman ended as quickly as it started and he is now engaged
I always have time for Laura Csortan, who in 2021 talked about how ‘hard’ it is to date as a single mother in Sydney’s east, where there are ‘too many players’
Take the famous ‘nude artist’ Dina of Double Bay. I mean, she’s so sexy that I’m engrossed in her selfies, drooling over her body, and I’m not even remotely attracted to women.
At 46, Dina is “The Body of the East,” but she was (allegedly) dumped by Winnings Appliances heir John Winning Jr. last month. and was left heartbroken.
Um, what?
And Jackie O… I mean, you can’t get more famous or successful than the queen of breakfast radio. Yet her relationship with toyboy tradie Jack Tyerman ended as quickly as it began, and he is now engaged to a much younger Asha Dillon.
I always have time for Laura Csortan, who in 2021 talked about how “hard” it is to date as a single mother in Sydney’s east, where there are “too many players”.
I know I speak for many women my age here when I say that we have a rich life, good friends, and financial security after having children.
We’re not desperate for a new husband, the wide range of vibrators on the market means we’re not craving sex all the time, and if we want to go on holiday in a pinch, traveling alone is all the rage.
But as women, we still love men. We get lonely and yes, some company would be nice. But why is it so difficult to find – and keep?
I’ll tell you why:
1) Men are intimidated by successful women
I have a theory that men participation they love successful women and are attracted to them, but when it comes to the crunch of time, their egos just can’t handle it.
Society expects men to provide, and a successful woman intimidates a potential male partner who, consciously or unconsciously, wants to play that provider role.
And if a woman doesn’t need a man’s money, he should take action in other ways and actually work on the relationship. A fat wallet is not enough for these powerful ladies.
Amanda Goff has a theory that the more successful a woman is, the more likely she is to remain single
2) Some men just can’t handle a woman being the “star” of the relationship
A man in a relationship with someone like Jackie O or Dina Broadhurst has to be great in one area. No, not that one. I’ll take over.
They need to be confident and happy with themselves, knowing that they probably won’t be the one people look at and admire.
There is no room for feelings of inadequacy, big egos or resentment.
Trust me ladies, the dating pool will be small here.
3) Our financial independence means we don’t take BS
The older women get, the less we tolerate. And if you have money, you can just walk away at the first sign of drama.
This is a good thing and a bad thing: it means women can leave at any time, but it also means women may be too willing to throw a man off if he falls on a hurdle..
Many couples in love don’t exactly start out perfectly, so arriving at the first red flag could mean giving up on someone special.
But again, ask yourself this: If you’re a successful, confident woman in your 40s, why would you risk it for a man who doesn’t meet all your standards?
So the next time you read the social pages and discover that Jackie or Dina is single again, don’t shake your head and wonder, “Why can’t they keep a man?”
It’s probably not her; it’s him.