Alyssa Jane: Mum splits opinion after sharing her and her partner’s controversial relationship rules
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Mom surprises her followers with the ‘controversial’ relationship rules she and her partner follow, including 24/7 monitoring each other and knowing all passwords.
- An Australian mother has divided opinions with the rules of her relationship with her partner
- They include tracking each other’s speeding and sharing locations.
An Australian mother of two has divided her followers over the ‘controversial’ relationship rules she and her fiancé follow.
Alyssa Jane, from Queensland, said the couple share their location 24/7, know each other’s passwords, keep track of each other’s spending and let their partner know if they are dating someone of the opposite sex.
The 20-year-old mom has divided opinion with the rules. Many think they are perfectly normal, while others criticize them as “toxic” and “controlling.”
“My argument is that if you have nothing to hide, why does it matter?” Alyssa said.
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Australian mother of two, Alyssa Jane (pictured), has shocked her followers by sharing the rules of the relationship between her and her fiancée.
The couple share their location 24/7, know each other’s passwords, keep track of each other’s spending, and let their partner know if they are dating someone of the opposite sex.
‘Do you think this is normal or controversial?’ asked the mother.
“The rules aren’t set rules for our relationship, they’re just things we do,” she explained.
The couple’s first habit is to share their location 24/7 via Google Maps.
“Honestly, we rarely use it, we don’t use it to stalk each other,” he said.
Alyssa said it’s more about convenience, like if one needs to pick the other up somewhere.
Many people said “what about personal freedom?” and we call it ‘controller’, but we don’t use it as a control mechanism,’ he explained.
The couple also share passwords and leave their phones unlocked.
“My partner and I know each other’s phone passwords, these are not all passwords, but they are definitely our phones,” he said.
She explained that they didn’t specifically decide to share passwords, it just happened over time.
Alyssa and her partner (pictured) have divided opinion online after sharing their ‘controversial’ rules
“We leave our phones unlocked all the time so none of us feel the need to suspect anything. I guess if we wanted to, we could go through the other person’s phone,” she said.
The third rule is that she and her partner share finances.
‘My partner and I have a shared bank account. We have our own bank accounts and then shared accounts,’ she said.
He added that his banking application it allows them to see what is being spent and where it is being spent.
“We always monitor how much money we have and who spends the most and where the money goes,” he said.
The final rule is that even though the couple is allowed to hang out with the opposite sex, out of courtesy they let each other know when they are.
Despite several people criticizing Alyssa’s rules as “toxic” and “controlling,” many people fully supported them and practice similar habits in their own relationships.
“We are the same, it just happened over time, especially when children are involved,” said one woman.
“My wife and I do this too, I think it’s great for mutual trust and just makes life so much easier,” another agreed.
‘Sharing location in healthy relationships is not toxic. It is for peace of mind and security,” wrote another.