My boyfriend called me ‘controlling’ after I asked him not to wear Crocs on date night
A woman has revealed she was branded ‘controlling’ by her boyfriend after she begged him to stop wearing Crocs on their date nights.
The unnamed woman took to Reddit to reveal that she had begged her lover not to wear clogs made from croslite, a material similar to rubber.
Her request sparked a fiery debate between the lovebirds as her boyfriend refused to take the Crocs off his feet, even taunting them when they visited high-end restaurants.
In a thread titled, Am I the hole?she wondered if she was wrong to ask him to avoid the clogs.
She confessed that even though he claimed she was “controlling,” she felt like she was “going crazy” trying to explain why she didn’t want him to pair his ensembles with Crocs.
A woman has revealed she was branded ‘controlling’ by her boyfriend after she begged him to stop wearing Crocs on their date nights (stock image)
The post was captioned: “Am I the asshole for asking my boyfriend not to wear Crocs on dates?”
She explained: ‘My boyfriend (23M) and I (22F) are on medium/long distance (two hours) and only see each other on weekends. We go out to nicer restaurants and bars for dinners and have fun dates.
“When we went apple picking, I asked him not to wear Crocs because it’s muddy, slippery, etc. It caused a mini fight, but he eventually switched to boots. When we went out to dinner that night, he wore the Crocs again.
“We’re planning our Halloween costumes and the next time we see each other I asked him if he wanted to wear shoes other than Crocs.” More than just the functionality part, they’re just not really what you wear when you go to bars or eat at nice restaurants.’
Her pleas were ignored when her boyfriend claimed they were the perfect clothes for a night out on the town.
The woman’s boyfriend also fired back, labeling her as “controlling.”
She said: ‘He even admitted that he didn’t wear Crocs to school much (PhD) because he ‘dressed nicer for school’. I like to pick out cute outfits that I know he likes and do my makeup when I see him.
“When I asked if he doesn’t like dressing up when we see each other, he said it doesn’t matter what you wear. Yes, but there’s also a reason why people don’t wear Crocs to weddings or job interviews.
The unnamed woman took to Reddit to reveal that she had begged her lover not to wear clogs made from croslite, a material similar to rubber.
“He feels like I’m controlling him by asking him not to wear Crocs, and I think so too, but I feel like I’m going crazy trying to explain to him why Crocs aren’t appropriate for every occasion .
“I’m not trying to throw away his Crocs or anything, but I just really like it when he dresses a little nicer and doesn’t wear sweatpants and Crocs.”
At the end of the post, the 22-year-old admitted that her boyfriend labeled her “shallow” when she begged people online for advice.
Social media users flocked to the comments section and ran to the woman’s defense as they criticized her boyfriend.
One person said: ‘Not the hole. You’re not being “controlling” by asking him to look nice when you go somewhere nice. You ask him to be respectful of the occasion and the setting. That’s just good manners.
“He can be bothered to dress up for school, but not for you. That sucks.’
Someone else wrote: ‘Not the hole, but this is probably not your person. He clearly doesn’t care about you enough to wear shoes. You can do better.’
Another user commented: ‘Yes, you can ask him to dress like an adult on dates, sheesh.’
Social media users flocked to the comments section, with the post sparking a fiery debate
“The fact that he puts more effort into being presentable at school than on a date with you is telling,” one user said.
However, other people on the internet claimed that the woman did not consider her boyfriend’s feelings.
“You’re the bastard. Let him be him,” said one user.
Another person wrote: ‘This is hilarious. you don’t decide how someone else dresses. For a nice restaurant I could understand, it’s nice to let someone know they might look weird or inappropriate, but for apple picking and for bars those shoes are totally reasonable. Do you just want a boyfriend for the aesthetics? You are the hole.”
Someone else commented: ‘You are the asshole and also determined. Assuming your boyfriend doesn’t care about you because of the shoes he wears. How superficial are you? You can’t control what he wears, just like he can’t control what you wear.’