I’m a sex expert – here is the biggest mistake lovers are making in the bedroom

A sex expert has revealed the biggest mistake lovers make when they get tangled in the sheets.

Sarah Riccio, 34, is a sex-positive activist and professional sex toy tester who wants to help people have the best sex of their lives.

According to the New York intimacy expert, there are still many misunderstandings about sex and many people are still unsure about the different ways to be intimate.

“Most people still think that sex is just penetrative intercourse where the penis is inserted into the vagina, but the truth is that this is just one specific example of sex – there are so many ways to have sex,” Sarah enthuses.

She added that a major problem is that lovers do not understand the concept of foreplay, which makes their sexual moments less enjoyable.

“Most adults don’t really know what foreplay is,” she explained. “People think it’s just mouth and hands for ‘real’ sex, but that’s actually ‘coreplay.'”

According to the sex pert, “real foreplay” includes all the non-physical things you do to build excitement before physical play.

“They should really call it ‘foreplay,’” she joked.

Sarah emphasized that if an activity results in an orgasm, it should not be classified as foreplay.

“Foreplay should not be viewed as an add-on to sexual play, but as an essential part of play that really lays the foundation for a satisfying experience,” she said.

Sarah says that misunderstandings about what foreplay is can often lead to situations where people – especially women – aren’t quite in the mood when intercourse begins.

“They’re not naturally lubricated, or penetration is painful because the arousal isn’t set properly,” she explained.

Sarah’s unusual work began as a bed tester, testing mattresses and bedding for manufacturing companies, where she eventually met her current business partner, Rose.

Sarah Riccio, 34, is a sex-positive activist and professional sex toy tester who is determined to help people have the best sex of their lives

However, she noted that mainstream porn can be harmful because it perpetuates harmful ideas about consent, anatomy and pleasure

When she saw an ad for a sex toy tester on Craigslist in 2018, she immediately seized the idea.

“Luckily it was real,” she joked.

In 2020, Sarah and Rose both lost their jobs due to the pandemic, and in the summer of 2021, they launched their sex toy website, Delicto. The website sells sex toys and offers advice and reviews.

“I thought sex was the only thing I enjoyed more than sleeping, so that’s where we went,” she joked.

In her work, Sarah writes extensive reviews of the latest sex toys. She has tested over 150 different sex toys herself.

On their site you will find sex education and tips and tutorials on how to use them.

“When the company first started, we had our ups and downs, and at one point we thought, ‘Should we just go back to working for the guy?’ But now we’re bigger than ever,” Sarah boasted proudly.

The sex expert has many different opinions on all things intimacy and also shares her strong thoughts on porn.

In 2020, Sarah and Rose (pictured) lost their jobs due to the pandemic and launched the sex toy website Delicto in the summer of 2021, which sells sex toys and provides advice and reviews about them

“A lot of people think porn is bad, no matter what, but the industry has made huge strides in the last 10 years,” she argued.

She highlighted the rise of ‘ethical porn’, where sex workers and performers start their own businesses.

According to the sex expert, X-rated platforms like OnlyFans have shed new light on intimacy and made conversations about it more positive.

“It’s kind of like the farmers market of porn, where young people can learn about kinky stuff or anatomy in a healthy, positive way,” she pointed out.

However, she noted that mainstream porn can be harmful because it perpetuates harmful ideas about consent, anatomy and pleasure, and projects unrealistic body standards.

‘[For example] “Many women and people with vulvas are convinced that there is something wrong if they don’t have labia minora,” Sarah explains.

Ultimately, Sarah encourages everyone to open their minds, broaden their definition of sex, and have conversations that are less shrouded in shame.

“I wish we as a collective would be less ashamed when we talk about sex,” she said.

‘Either with ourselves or with each other.’