The curse of being married to J-Lo: From the waiter who wanted her to be ‘washing dishes at home’ to fame-traumatised dancer Cris Judd – what happened to star’s ex husbands as she files for divorce a fourth time
Jennifer lopez officially ended her marriage to Ben Affleck to the singer filed for divorce myself on tuesday.
The latest divorce is 55-year-old Jennifer’s fourth, and Ben’s second, who was previously married to actress Jennifer Garner.
She was married to former waiter Ojani Noa from 1997 to 1998, then to Cris Judd from 2001 to 2003, and to Marc Anthony from 2004 to 2014.
Many of her exes have abandoned her after their breakup with her successful music and acting career.
J-Lo once bluntly described former waiter Ojani as someone who “doesn’t have it together” and pointed out that he would “never make as much money as she does.” He is now a personal trainer who shares fitness videos on his Instagram.
Cris, who now gives dance workshops, previously described how traumatic it was having his “privacy violated” during their relationship and said their wedding turned into a “circus”.
What has become of the pop star’s ex-husband as she goes through her fourth divorce:
Jennifer Lopez has officially ended her marriage to Ben Affleck after the singer filed for divorce on Tuesday
Ojani Noa: 1997-1998
Jennifer Lopez and producer Ojani Noa married in 1997 after the former pathos first met when he was a waiter at a Miami restaurant.
However, after only 11 months of marriage, the couple divorced in January 1998.
In a brutal 1998 interview, she recounted him telling Movie Line, “It’s hard for me because for some reason the men I’m attracted to still haven’t made it.
‘Even my husband, I think, has a lot of potential, but he’s not at the point yet where… I mean, even if he has a lot of contacts, even if he does his own thing, opens a club here and a restaurant here, whatever business he starts, he’s never going to make as much money as I do.
‘That’s something he has to learn to live with and that’s very difficult for someone like him.
Jennifer Lopez and producer Ojani Noa married in 1997 after the former couple first met when he was a waiter at a Miami restaurant
In 1998, she spoke about him in a brutal interview when he told Movie Line, “It’s hard for me because the men I’ve been attracted to, for one reason or another, haven’t been able to make it happen” (seen on the wedding day)
Ojani now describes himself on his Instagram as a personal trainer and actor.
In the interviews, she added the following about Ojani: “If you asked him now, he would rather have me at home doing the dishes, us living in a little apartment and him making the money, than me making millions of dollars a year and living in a house where I pay most of the expenses!”
The singer and Noa appeared to be on good terms after their split, when she hired her ex to help run a Cuban restaurant she opened in LA, according to Harper’s Bazaar.
Six months later, she fired Ojani, who then sued the star for breach of contract.
He was later banned by the court from “criticizing, denigrating, portraying in a negative light or otherwise disparaging Lopez.”
Noa was sued by Jennifer in 2006 when he promoted a book based on their short-lived marriage. Three years later, he sent him a letter asking him to stop writing the mockumentary, titled How I Married Jennifer Lopez: The J.Lo and Ojani Noa Story.
After the entertainer tied the knot with Ben in a Las Vegas chapel in July 2022, Ojani shared his thoughts on her fourth marriage in a chat with DailyMail.com.
Ojani now describes himself on his Instagram as a personal trainer and actor
In the interviews she added about Ojani: ‘If you asked him now, he would rather have me do the dishes at home’
“I wish her and Ben the best, but I’m not convinced it will last,” he said at the time. “Jen loves being in love, but she’s been engaged six times. Ben is husband number four.”
“I was husband number one and she told me I was the love of her life. As we lay in bed on our wedding night, she told me we would be together forever.”
The personal trainer later added: “I’m happy she’s back with Ben, but I have a feeling it won’t last long.”
“I think she’s someone who will marry seven or eight times. I can’t imagine her ever settling down with just one person.”
Ojani explains: ‘She pushes herself to constantly move forward in her professional life, which is why she has had a career for 30 years, but she is also moving forward in her private life.’
Cris Judd: 2001-2003
Jennifer Lopez later tied the knot with dancer Cris Judd in 2001, after the two met on the set of her music video for Love Don’t Cost A Thing.
But the marriage was also short-lived, as nine months later, in July 2002, the couple filed for divorce.
The following year, in 2003, the divorce was officially finalized.
Today, he lives a life outside the spotlight and has been happily married to his wife Kelly since 2009.
Today he teaches dance workshops and is a choreographer. He worked on the sitcom Fuller House, among others.
In 2014, Judd opened up during a candid interview with We weekly about his previous relationship and marriage with the singer On The Floor.
Jennifer Lopez later tied the knot with dancer Cris Judd in 2001, after the two met on the set of her music video for Love Don’t Cost A Thing
He now lives a life outside the spotlight and has been happily married to his wife Kelly since 2009
“You know it’s very hard. Your privacy is being violated. You’re no longer a normal person,” he said earlier about his marriage to the famous
“You know it’s very hard. Your privacy is being violated. You’re not a normal person anymore,” he said at the time.
‘[Our wedding] was a circus. I think several people were arrested trying to climb a mountain… to sneak in. We rented the airspace.’
He admitted it was “tough” being in the spotlight, but said: “You kind of sign up for it, you know? You have to accept it and embrace it.”
“Once you stop fighting, it smooths itself out. When you try to maintain that privacy, it drives you crazy and that’s why people break,” Cris said.
As for the reason for their split, he simply said, “Unfortunately, it just didn’t work out.”
The marriage was also short-lived as the couple filed for divorce nine months later in July 2002
Marc Anthony 2004-2014
Lopez and Anthony first met in 1998, when he appeared in the Broadway musical The Capeman.
The couple quickly developed a close friendship and married in a private ceremony in 2004, shortly after her first engagement to Ben Affleck ended.
Four years later, in 2008, the former couple welcomed twins Max and Emme. However, the two separated in 2011, with the divorce being officially finalized in 2014.
Marc is an incredibly successful singer and songwriter and has won four Grammy Awards.
During an interview with W Magazine in 2016, per We weeklyLopez reflected on her third marriage. “When my marriage ended, it wasn’t easy to find forgiveness.”
Lopez and Anthony first crossed paths in 1998 when he appeared in the Broadway musical titled The Capeman (seen in LA in 2006)
“It wasn’t the dream I had hoped for. It would have been easier to fan the flames of resentment, disappointment and anger.”
The star added: “But Marc is the father of my children, and that’s never going to go away. So I have to work on making things right. And that’s by far the hardest job I do.”
“I stuck with it for seven years. I knew pretty quickly that it wasn’t the right thing to do,” she revealed to the outlet.
The pair quickly developed a close friendship and later married in 2004 in a private ceremony – shortly after her first engagement to Ben Affleck ended
Despite the split, the exes remained on good terms and continued to work together in the entertainment industry.
The two performed together at the Latin Grammy Awards in 2016, among other events, singing ‘Olvídame y Pega la Vuelta’.
During an interview with Extra in 2017, per PeopleThe Rain Over Me hitmaker said: ‘We’re always [in a good place] “From day one, you know.”
“We met working – 20 years ago we met working. She’s my goombah – that’s my girl – for life. If you want to get along with a woman, just get a divorce.”