My husband and I went through a ‘sleep divorce’ because his snoring was so loud – now our sex life is hotter than ever

A ‘grumpy’ mother who kicked her husband out of bed eight years ago because of his annoying snoring admits it saved their relationship and improved their sex life at the same time.

Alexis Scott, 41, went through a “sleep divorce” with her husband Brian shortly after the lovebirds got married in August 2015. She had been lying awake many nights struggling to fall asleep due to his loud snoring.

The Idaho mother admitted she was curt with her husband before throwing him out of the house and into another room, even saying she wanted to “strangle” him.

Although the couple now sleep separately, Alex admitted that it has improved their love life since then, noting that they now have “more energy” to hide in sheets.

And although Brian was initially shunned by the removal, he now agrees because he can now snore, fart, and roll around without upsetting her.

Alexis was so angry about her husband’s sleeping habits that she even took to TikTok to voice her displeasure.

“He snored like a freight train, it was horrible. I was just mad at him, he was the reason I wasn’t sleeping. I felt bad for being mad at him because he can’t really control it, but at the same time it was his fault,” she said.

‘I was lucky if I could somehow fall asleep before him, but I would still wake up in the middle of the night at some point because he was snoring so loudly. And if I couldn’t fall asleep before him, I was lucky to fall asleep.

‘I slept for about four hours at a time, it was like a baby waking up at different times during the night.

‘When I don’t sleep I’m very emotional and irritable, I was grumpy all the time. That caused arguments between us, nobody was winning at that time.’

The mother of two says she initially moved Brian to a separate room “out of frustration,” but then permanently sent him to the guest room.

Alexis claimed it had improved their love life, even though they didn’t sleep in the same room, as it gave them ‘more energy’ to enjoy sex.

“People are afraid that you don’t have time to be intimate with your partner, but we definitely have time for that,” says Alexis.

“We have more energy to be intimate. Who wants to do that with someone they just want to smother with a pillow because they haven’t slept at all?

“We can have intimate moments and romantic moments and cuddle and all that stuff. But that doesn’t necessarily mean I have to sleep next to you.

“There are times in the morning when he goes to bed and I have my coffee and we talk, just like you would if you had slept together the night before. The only difference is you’re not sleeping in the same room.”

Now the partners are happier than ever and attribute their successful marriage to their “sleep divorce.”

“At first it was out of frustration, I was so upset, I couldn’t handle it anymore. Then I realized, ‘Oh my god, this is actually a solution,'” she said.

‘I think my husband was a little sad at first, but now he’s gotten to the point where he doesn’t want to sleep with me anymore either.

He is so relaxed 1722616232 because he was really feeling bad and therefore wasn’t sleeping well with the worry of “Am I snoring? Am I waking her up? Is she sleeping?”

‘He struggled with the fact that I wasn’t the best version of myself, so he got stressed when he woke me up.

“Once I left home, we could both just sleep and not have to worry about each other. We’re both much happier.”

She noted that the decision to sleep in separate bedrooms made them happier every day.

“I would say it’s a big part of why we’re still married. Try going a decade without sleep. And then you have kids and responsibilities in your life,” she said.

‘It gives us both the opportunity to be as rested as possible, with two well-rested adults there is better communication [and] just a generally happier mood.

“I’m not bitter towards him, I can be a more loving wife. There’s no going back.”

The separate sleeping arrangement also applies when they go on vacation. Alexis says the extra costs are ‘worth it’.

“When we go on vacation, I often book a two-bedroom Airbnb, even if it’s just the two of us,” she said.

‘Even though it costs a little more, it’s worth it to enjoy my holiday and look fresh.

‘On family vacations I sleep with the kids. He gets his own room.’

After the couple’s sleep separation was successful, the mother encourages other couples to do the same and not give in to “societal pressure.”

“If you can fix something, don’t let societal pressure stop you from doing it,” Alexis says.

‘As a woman and a mother I sacrifice all the time. Everything I do is based on making other people happy and I’m done with that.

“So if someone wants to do that or is thinking about it, maybe that’s the push they need.”

Brian was initially sad about the arrangement, but said he now fully supports it. He could now do what he wanted without fear of upsetting Alexis.

“The sleep separation has been great. We both get the sleep we need and can be better partners when we’re rested. Alexis is very grumpy when she’s tired and so am I, so it’s been really good for us,” he said.

“It was a little strange at first having separate bedrooms permanently, but I quickly got used to it. I can snore, fart, and roll around without waking her up or upsetting her.”

People on the internet jumped on the comments, praising the couple’s “sleep separation.”

One user wrote: “Great idea.”

Another user noted, “I have a few friends who do this and they’ve been married for decades.”

A third wrote: ‘I am sleep separated because [my husband’s] “When I snore, I want to kill him.”

However, one of them criticized the couple’s decision to sleep in separate rooms.

One of them said, “If I had wanted to sleep alone, I would have stayed alone.”