The 30 worst messages to send on a dating app – are you guilty of using them?

Dating apps can be a tricky minefield to navigate for many people. The lack of face-to-face communication often leaves people feeling anxious or unsure of what to say.

New research could help daters who are afraid of dating overcome their fears, as a survey has revealed the worst things you can text someone on a dating app.

Research among 2,000 single Britons, commissioned by dating app Breeze and conducted by Perspectus Global, found that More than half (56 percent) of singles in the UK find monotonous messaging hard work and uncomfortable, while 40 percent have had enough.

When trying to connect, a simple “send photos” is the rudest (45 percent), followed closely by a single eggplant emoji (44 percent)

One in five (20 percent) compare messaging on a dating app to doing paperwork, while a tenth (11 percent) compare it to a second job.

Research among 2,000 single Britons, commissioned by dating app Breeze and conducted by Perspectus Global, found that more than half (56 percent) of British singles maintain that monotonous messaging is hard work (File image)

Tiring chats are such a turn-off for daters in this country that after just three boring messages, they lose interest in someone altogether.

And interest immediately wanes: 89 percent indicate that a boring opening message makes a bad first impression.

“Hey baby, what’s your number?” (40 percent) and “You’re so pretty” (34 percent) both ranked in the top 30 most embarrassing, boring or unimaginative texts.

Four in 10 (38 percent) grimace when they hear “Without me?” when they say they are going to take a shower, while a third (34 percent) feel embarrassed when reading “Phwoarr,” the research found.

The classic questions, “Did it hurt when you fell from the sky?” (34 percent), “What are you wearing?” (33 percent), “Imagine what our children will look like” (29 percent) and “I have serious codependency issues” (28 percent) also raise questions.

Asking whether a friend in your photos has an Instagram account (32 percent) also makes daters feel uncomfortable, as does asking your match, “Tell me why I should go on a date with you?” (24 percent).

Three quarters (76 percent) admit to losing interest in someone who messages too often. So if you’re going to suggest meeting up, it’s best to do so within the 10 messages you’ve sent. That’s the maximum number of messages daters will tolerate before cutting off contact.

One in four (22 percent) admit they worry they’ll have nothing to talk about on the date if they send too many messages.

Meanwhile, another 16 percent worry that excessive texting could lead to a “pen pal relationship” – messaging someone who seems interested but never wants to meet up in real life.

In fact, four in ten daters have a pen pal and singles write to an average of six people in their lives.

One in five (20 percent) compares messaging on a dating app to doing paperwork, while a tenth (11 percent) compares it to a second job (file image)

In contrast, six in ten (59 percent) have happily messaged, only to see their match cut off contact completely without any explanation. On average, British daters have felt the pain of being ghosted seven times.

But it’s not love at first sight when you meet someone in real life either: more than half (53 percent) say that after flirting with their match for weeks, when they finally met them they were completely lost interest.

It’s no surprise that two-thirds (63 percent) would like a way to avoid all messages and go straight to an appointment.

Marco van der Woude, co-founder of Breeze, says: ‘Research shows that first impressions are incredibly important and that many people waste them on a terrible opening message on a dating app, causing the spark to ignite before it even happens.