Woman ignites fierce debate after labelling girlfriends who pick their own engagement rings as ‘insecure and entitled’

A woman who believes a man should always choose his partner’s engagement ring has sparked a heated debate online.

The woman described herself as “old-fashioned” because she found it odd that some friends insist on choosing a ring themselves before they get engaged.

“I feel like women have become so insecure and arrogant about their rings because of social media and how it looks to other people,” she said on TikTok.

‘They have forgotten what the proposal and the ring symbolize.

“If you’re afraid your man will give you the wrong ring, you’re with the wrong man – woman to woman, the right man won’t mess that up.”

She also said she would never date a man she didn’t trust enough to pick out a starlet himself.

“I’ve never had to tell my husband how to behave. The ring symbolizes love and commitment, it’s not about control and perfection,” she said.

Her comments sparked a heated debate among women, especially as more and more girlfriends choose their own design before proposing.

“I totally agree, I don’t understand how that could be such a hot take. I was completely surprised and now I’m even more in love with my ring because I had no idea,” said one woman.

“My sister picked hers and wasn’t exactly thrilled when the proposal came because she picked it out herself. I was completely surprised and thrilled to see what was picked out for me,” said another.

There were those who strongly disagreed with this. Some said that it is important to ask for what you want and that choosing the ring does not mean that the proposal cannot be a surprise.

“As a jeweler, I strongly disagree. It is crucial that a woman loves her ring and that it reflects her style. The plans and timing of the proposal should be a surprise no matter what,” said one man.

“I designed my ring not because my fiancé can’t follow directions or doesn’t know what I like, but because he knows I like to be involved. I have my dream ring and the experience to create it,” one woman added.

Others claimed that men could not read minds and could not know what a woman wanted, especially something as personal and specific as jewelry, without asking her first.

“Men are literally stupid… they don’t know anything,” one man said.

“I love my fiancé, but he would never have guessed I wanted a ruby ​​ring cut like an emerald — unless I told him I wanted one,” one woman said.

A woman proved that some well-meaning men just aren’t that good at buying something as tricky as jewelry.

“My husband bought me earrings the other day because he knows I love mushrooms, so cute right? They’re not mushrooms, they’re wizard hats, he couldn’t tell the difference,” the woman said.

Someone else felt that buying an engagement ring together isn’t so much about control or pampering a woman, but simply about a shared experience.

“As you get older and more experienced in life, you don’t worry about having the perfect proposal or anything. You go out together and make phone calls and that’s it,” she said.