Dating coach details how to finally let go of your obsessive feelings about your unrequited love
A dating coach has detailed how to ‘break free’ from someone you’re obsessed with if you find yourself on the wrong end of a one-sided crush.
Gabby, passing by @respectvolgabby on TikTok, she made it clear to her viewers that they had to let go of the one who was the object of their unrequited love.
And she went even further and also explained how individuals in love fell so hard for someone in the first place when the feelings were clearly not mutual.
“Let’s talk about how to break away from the person you’re obsessed with. Believe me, I understand,” she admitted.
“I’ve been there where you’re so enamored with this one person and you just can’t get them out of your mind. In your head you think, “This has to be it. This has to be it. I can’t see myself with anyone else, this is my person.”
Gabby advised viewers on how to deal with unrequited love and how not to fall too hard for someone in the future
Yet even the strongest feelings about that person cannot make him feel the same way.
“One of the main reasons you’re obsessed with this person is because you don’t believe someone like her exists out there, or you don’t believe you’ll find a connection like her out there,” says Gabby. way of analyzing.
“If you’re dating with the mentality of, ‘This is the only person,’ you start to attach yourself to that person, you start to become obsessed.
“Try to put the pieces together so they fit, so they want to choose you. But the point is this: once you get attached to someone, you completely lose control, and that’s exactly what you’re trying to avoid.
“The whole reason for stitching is that you want to control the pieces, you want to control the outcome. And that’s just not how life works,” she bluntly reminded her jilted viewers.
‘This is how life actually works: you can’t control anyone, you can’t control anything, except yourself.
“So if this person wants to be in your life, let him. If they don’t want to be in your life, let them. If they want to see you, let them. If they don’t want to see you, that’s okay.’
Keep in mind that if it’s not this person, it will be something much better, she added encouragingly.
“Believe me, I’ve been there,” she admitted of being on the rejected side of a romantic dynamic
Many viewers took to the comments to praise Gabby for the good advice – and offered their own tried-and-tested methods for getting over someone
“You don’t know what’s on the other side of this person. It could be your true soulmate who treats you like gold, wants to make the effort, you have a better connection, you have more things in common.
“You don’t know because you’re so attached to the wrong person. And whatever that person needs to bring into your life, let him or her – whether it’s a lesson or a life saver. Never a loss!’
Many viewers happily praised Gabby for the good advice, while others volunteered their own tried and tested methods for getting over a crush.
‘Omg YEEEEESSSS! Everything. PREACH. Especially the last part. I learned SO much,” one person wrote.
“I needed that today,” came a second.
“Men centering is the best thing I’ve done to keep me in check [continued] limerance,” a third claimed.