Professional matchmaker reveals the ULTIMATE relationship red flag that means you are ’99 per cent likely to break up’ with your partner

A professional matchmaker and life coach has revealed the ultimate relationship red flag, which means there is a ’99 per cent chance of the relationship breaking up’.

Paul Carrick Brunson appeared on The diary of a CEO podcast, hosted by entrepreneur Steven Bartlett, to share his expert insights.

He claimed that ‘contempt’ was the main reason for breakups, with negative exchanges between couples leading to ‘hairline fractures’ that widened over time.

The relationship guru also explained that conflict resolution is one of the most important factors in achieving a “highly satisfied relationship.”

He claimed that ‘contempt’ was the main reason for breakups, with negative exchanges between couples leading to ‘hairline fractures’ that widen over time

In a recent episode of the podcast, which has been viewed more than 90,000 times to date, Paul sits down at a round table to reveal the biggest cause of divorce.

He begins by diving into the work of relationship researcher John Gottman, who studied “hundreds and hundreds” of couples to argue that there are “four horsemen” when it comes to partnerships.

“(Gottman) looked at how they interacted with each other and he determined that based on how they interacted with each other is an indication of whether they will stay together in a relationship,” Paul explained.

‘He identified these four types of interaction that suggest things are a little shaky – and if he sees any of the four, he believes with 99 percent accuracy, they will fall apart.”

Paul, who has built up a following of over 264,000 followers on Instagram by regularly sharing his insights, then explains what exactly the four indicators are.

‘One is criticism, another is defensiveness, a third is holding back. But this is the biggest one and I see this often: contempt,” he said.

He continues, “If you have a partner who shows disdain for you, as Dr. Gottman would say, there is a 99 percent chance that you will break up as a couple.

‘The reason for this is that true contempt suggests that you are on a completely different level than your partner. It’s a level of disrespect. You tell your partner that you are no longer on my level.’

The relationship guru (left) also told the host (right) that conflict resolution is one of the most important factors in achieving a ‘highly satisfied relationship’

Paul, author of Find Love: How To Navigate Modern Love And Discover The Right Partner For You, adds: ‘I see it all the time.

‘I see couples arguing and you see the eyes roll, the look away and the look back – at those exact moments a partner says, “You’re not even on my level, you shouldn’t even be in my presence.”

“When you see that level of disrespect from your partner, you know they don’t respect you, they don’t appreciate you.”

When asked where the seed of contempt comes from, Paul explains, “IT can start from many places.

‘I fundamentally believe it starts with selecting bad partners. It starts with choosing a partner that we have little hope of making it to the finish line.

“So we’re not aligned on our relationship goals, maybe we don’t share the same values, our partner isn’t nice to us, we can’t resolve conflicts—and then with every little interaction there’s another hairline crack and it grows.

‘MMost relationships don’t end because of one incident because of hundreds of small incidents that happen over time.

“You get to a point where you can’t take it anymore, and that’s how most relationships fall apart.”

Paul concluded, “The main reason that most researchers will say that we separate or divorce is that they point to finances or that they say fidelity.

‘But what actually I believe this is our inability to resolve the conflict those topics.

‘Conflict resolution becomes one of the most important drivers for a highly satisfied relationship.’