Newlywed woman reveals BRUTAL truth about changing your name after marriage – detailing the severe ’emotional and psychological’ toll the MONTHS-long process has taken on her
Getting married can already be a stressful event, but a newlywed couple has discovered why some of the most annoying things happen after they get married.
Delanie Kristek, a 27-year-old marketing consultant from Dallas, Texas, recently went viral with a TikTok video in which she discussed the “mental toll” the months-long process of changing her last name had on her after tying the knot.
Delanie, who wanted her last name to match her husband’s, posted the more than two minute video with a list of all the things she had to adjust.
“Men in heterosexual marriages will never understand the mental strain and time investment of changing your last name,” the newlyweds explained in the clip, which has been viewed more than 1.3 million times.
Delanie Kristek, a 27-year-old marketing consultant and newlywed from Dallas, Texas, recently went viral with a TikTok video discussing the “mental toll” of changing your last name
Delanie explained how tiring the whole process was, saying that so far she had only changed her social security number and was now trying to change her driver’s license
She then explained that she was in the process of changing her last name, and even though she got help from the NewlyNamed name change kit, it was still a long and exhausting process.
“Everything is on the government website, which we already know is nonsense,” the content creator complained.
“The only thing I changed is my (Social Security), and now I’m at the point where I’m going to change my driver’s license. Tit just takes a lot of time.’
Delanie then explained that she tried to make an appointment at the Department of Public Service (DPS), which is what Texas calls the DMV, and nothing was available until January of next year.
‘Guess? I have a flight in December 2023,” she raged. “The name on my ticket is my new last name.”
Delanie then said she had to drive “all the way” to another DPS, which was a 40 minute round trip drive.
“I only changed my ID and my driver’s license,” she said in disbelief.
“I still need to change my insurance cards, I need to change my bank accounts, I need to change my passport, I need to change my Global Entry.”
Delanie said she knew the change wasn’t being forced on her, but she wanted to change her name, but she had no idea how annoying the process was (pictured with her now husband)
Delanie (pictured) couldn’t believe how many things she had to change and listed them in her video
In a follow-up video, she talked about the mental toll the process took on her
TikTok users shared their thoughts on name changes, many of whom had experienced it themselves
But it didn’t stop there.
“You need to change your name in all the systems you’re in,” Delanie noted.
“Most of us have multiple doctors. I have a GP, I have a gynaecologist, I have a therapist. There are so many places where my name appears, and now I have to change it.
‘The mental strain it takes on me… every time I see my name I think, “Oh my god, that’s ANOTHER place where I have to change my name.”
‘I know it’s not being forced on me, but I want it. I want to change my name. But holy cow, the process? Straight men will never know.”
In a follow-up clip, Delanie said the process had left her feeling like she was in limbo, “emotionally and psychologically.”
“On some documents I am Delanie Kristek, but on other documents I am also Delanie Majors,” she explained. “I’m not really one, I’m not really the other.”
“It messes with your brain during this whole name changing process – it can take about six months, and longer,” she continued.
“You’re just sitting here in this nominal limbo, twiddling your thumbs with no identity.”
Delanie assured viewers that she was excited to change her name – she just found the administrative side of it exhausting.
Her TikTok video generated thousands of comments, many from people who had also gone through the name change process and could sympathize with it.
“My condition for changing my name is that my future husband has to do all the paperwork for me, I just show up and sign when needed,” one woman wrote.
“My husband took my last name,” chimed in another.
‘Five years already. Still working on it,” someone else added.
‘My fiancé and I are getting married in December. We’re both hyphenating our last names so we should at least go through it together,” a fourth user stated.