I am a dating expert here are the seven huge red flags in a man that women mistake for ‘good’ traits

A relationship expert has revealed the top seven warning signs that women mistake for good signs – or green flags – in relationships.

Dating coach and therapist Kelsey Wonderlin says if he’s “charming and pursuing you,” it could be a big red flag.

She says other attempts to “woo” a partner should also be taken as a warning, despite many women admitting they would like someone to show “that much interest.”

The relationship expert said that if he talks about “the future” on date two, he should be treated with caution.

And if he doesn’t let you pay for anything, that’s another huge red flag.

The fourth red flag is if it feels like he’s ‘courting’ you.

“Courting can distract both parties from focusing on the deeper qualities that are important in determining whether you are truly compatible: emotional maturity, core values,” she warned.

She said that making out “can indicate a lack of healthy relationship skills” or a lack of emotional intelligence.

The fifth red flag, according to Kelsey, is if he wants to “lead” everywhere.

“When one person leads in a dynamic, BY DESIGN, one person leads and one person follows,” she explained.

“Think of the areas of life in which we use the term ‘leader’: a boss. A superior. One person has a position of power over the other.

‘In an equal partnership, we lead ourselves and sometimes lean on each other. We divide tasks based on our preferences and strengths. But EVERY partner does this and it is discussed as a TEAM.’

The sixth red flag is that he makes you feel like his life is “incomplete” without you.

And the seventh is ‘always wanting to see you’.

She warned that abusive relationships do not start out that way and often involve an intense period of “courtship” in the beginning.

The expert’s advice was welcomed by thousands of people, but others were upset by the message.

‘This is so confusing. You’re making so many assumptions about something great and equating men being gentlemen with insulting behavior. I raised my son to be exactly what you want women to be afraid of. Shame on you,” one mother shouted angrily.

“Guys, is it wrong to love your girlfriend?” an angry man asked.

“Don’t date feminists, they always complain… paying for you is a red flag and asking to split the bill is a shame,” shouted another.

Another man said that since watching the video he considers himself a ‘proud red flag’ and claims to have ticked six of the seven boxes.

Kelsey appeared in the comments to clarify the warning signs in her video, explaining that making out is outdated because it’s meant to “win you over.”

“Healthy relationships don’t start this way. They start with both people making an effort and really getting to know each other instead of courting each other. Sometimes ‘courting’ even hides love bombing,” she added.

The people who agreed with Kelsey said whether the behavior is a green or red flag depends on the man’s intentions.

‘A man who is more authentic and emotionally aware will want to get to know the other person before things like this. They will also like to see some of their own needs/wants validated,” one woman agreed.

One man added: ‘I see some of my fellow humans doing this and it’s honestly just an act of control. Maybe even from a standpoint of uncertainty etc. It’s not real at all.’