I’m a single mother of two and I’m dating a man I’m not attracted to – am I wrong to marry him for financial stability?

A woman divided public opinion this week after revealing she would only marry a man she was dating for financial security.

The mother-of-two, who is believed to be from London, asked Mumsnet users whether it was morally incorrect to say yes to a proposal from a man she has ‘absolutely no romantic or sexual attraction’ to.

The single mother, who is in her late 30s, explained that her children’s biological father did not give her child support despite him being “quite well off.”

Although she has built a good career and earns a fair wage, that doesn’t go far enough, with childcare and rent bills of £1,000 and £2,000 respectively.

But people are divided over her post, with some opposing the idea and others fully supporting her decision.

The single mother has been living paycheck to paycheck, with unexpected bills having to be added to a credit card

She believes that not pairing it with a man who earns a good wage working as a freelancer in the technology sector would vastly improve her family’s quality of life.

On the forum, the mother explained that she and the man who proposed to her first dated when they were in their early twenties.

The man is from her country of origin, which is unknown, and reportedly considers her “the one who got away.”

But unfortunately, the woman who is quickly approaching her 40s doesn’t feel the same way, making it clear that she only had “warm and friendly” feelings for him.

She wrote: ‘I’m not attractive at all and have never been asked out or visible to men in my life so it’s not a ‘lots of fish in the sea’ scenario.

“It’s very unusual for me to feel loved and adored at this level, and I feel very bad that I can’t offer the same intensity of feelings in return.”

Going on to say that she would even go so far as to ‘electrocute’ her own brain if it meant developing feelings of love for the man who asked for her hand in marriage.

According to the poster, she is only considering marrying her girlfriend, whom she previously texted barely once a month for her family’s safety.

The mum revealed she has approached several paydays while ‘in the red’, adding she has no savings or even a pension.

When unexpected payments come up, like an impromptu dentist appointment or a school trip, the mother of two has to put the costs on a credit card.

Although he has never left his parents’ home and has never been in a long-term relationship, let alone married, she thinks that being legally tied to the man would significantly improve her children’s quality of life.

She revealed that her potential future husband earns a good income from freelance work in the technology sector.

Although the mother of two has expressed concerns about the continued existence of the relationship if she ‘settles down’, she sees the proposal as a good financial move, which would mean extra opportunities for her children, and possibly some extra opportunities too would bring to her children. money aside in savings or a pension.

The London mother admitted there are not ‘enough fish in the sea’ for her

The mother, who has not had a monotonous holiday in eight years, is also concerned that this could be her last chance at a relationship.

She told Mumsnet that she herself was not an oil painting artist, implying that there is no long line of suitors or similar opportunities outside of her partner.

Many Mumnset users took to the comments section to vehemently express their opposition to the idea of ​​the mother, labeling the relationship as “doomed.”

One person commented: ‘No way. It’s hard enough when you love them, but without it, it’s doomed.

“I understand what you’re saying, but there’s something awful about it that’s just wrong. These are not Victorian times.’

Another said: ‘It’s very unfair to do this to him unless you’re completely honest about what’s going on then he can decide if it’s right or not.’

While one added: ‘You should only marry him for his money if he is fully aware that this is a factor in your decision.

“Don’t lie and say you’re only marrying him out of love if that isn’t true.”

But some fully supported the mother’s decision to marry for financial gain, with one commenter saying: ‘If it benefits your children and you can stomach it, I would do it.

Public opinion remained divided, as many vehemently disagreed with the mother’s plan, while others straddled the fence and said it was “okay” as long as she told her potential future partner.

“As you get older, you have to put your children first.”

One person advised: “If you really believe that you will make each other happy, even if not for the usual reasons, then I don’t see why you wouldn’t marry him.”

‘Romantic love fades, you have a friendship, that’s what counts.’

A few Mumsnet users straddled the fence and advised her to make her reasoning behind her decision clear to her potential fiancé so that it was ‘fair’.

While another continued: ‘I would definitely try living together for a year, with separate finances, before agreeing to marriage.’