Man, 34, starts a WILD relationship debate after furiously criticizing his girlfriend for baking him a birthday cake with VANILLA icing… when he’d demanded chocolate

A man has sparked heated debate after revealing he was furious when his girlfriend baked him a chocolate cake with the ‘wrong’ icing.

The unnamed 34-year-old took to Reddit to share his frustrations about his 36-year-old partner making him a chocolate cake with a thin layer of vanilla frosting in it instead of a chocolate cake with chocolate frosting.

He sparked controversy when he revealed he punched his girlfriend over the alleged oversight, adding that if he “wanted vanilla, he would have asked for vanilla in the cake.”

The anonymous man wondered if he was wrong in a thread titled: ‘Am I the hole?,” because he clapped back at his girlfriend, causing people on the internet to start a heated debate about who was right.

The unnamed 34-year-old took to Reddit to share his frustrations with people on the internet when his 36-year-old partner made him a chocolate cake with a thin layer of vanilla frosting

The message read: ‘It was my (34M) birthday yesterday and my girlfriend (36F) offered to bake me a cake. I told her I would prefer a chocolate cake (devil’s food) with chocolate frosting and nothing fancy.

“She’s normally a great baker, and I guess she didn’t think that was sophisticated enough or something.

“She baked me a chocolate cake with vanilla icing between the two layers of cake and topped with chocolate icing.”

He added that while the cake was “fine,” he was upset because it wasn’t exactly what he asked for.

When his girlfriend asked if he liked the sweet treat he baked for her, he joked, “If I wanted vanilla in a cake, I would have asked for vanilla in the cake.”

He noted that he “wasn’t pouting or making a scene,” but decided to make a statement by eating only half of a slice: the chocolate part.

His girlfriend then commented that she had made him a vanilla cake earlier and that he enjoyed it.

The 34-year-old added: “I pointed out that I don’t mind vanilla icing, but that’s not what I wanted for my birthday. Her feelings were hurt, and she even pulled a “I’m not going to make you a cake next year,” to which I replied, “I’ll order mine and get my money back if they don’t do it like I did.” want it.”

The anonymous man wondered if he was wrong in a thread titled ‘Am I the A**hole’ because he clapped back at his girlfriend for the birthday cake

‘Apparently that was the last straw. She asked me to leave, later texted me saying I had embarrassed her in front of her kids, and now she won’t respond to my messages anymore.”

At the end of the post, he added, “I think birthdays are important things, and I feel like I was honest with her when she asked me. I didn’t want to lie about it.

“My friend told me that I should have been grateful that she made me a cake at all, especially one that I have eaten and liked in the past.

‘Maybe I overreacted a bit, although I don’t feel I did and I hope to get a second opinion. Am I the hole here?’

People flooded the comments as his post sparked a fiery debate.

Many people condemned the man for acting like a ‘child’ and being ‘ungrateful’ towards his girlfriend’s kind gesture.

One person said: ‘You are the hole. Not necessarily because you said the cake wasn’t what you wanted, although I would have kept my mouth shut, but because of the way you spoke to her. It’s so incredibly rude and disrespectful. “If I wanted vanilla in a cake, I would have asked for vanilla in a cake” and “I order my own cake and get my money back if they don’t do it the way I want”. That’s crazy.

“You’re not fifteen and she’s not your mother (not that anyone should talk to their mother like that either). She is your partner who did something nice for you. If I had a partner who spoke to me like that, I’d be out the door in a heartbeat.”

Another user commented: ‘Right! It was a gift, baked out of love. She could have baked him a damn carrot cake, but I still wouldn’t find his behavior forgivable.”

Many people condemned the man for acting like a ‘child’ and being ‘ungrateful’ towards his girlfriend’s kind gesture

Someone else wrote: ‘I would definitely feel sorry if she went out of her way to give him something other than what he asked for. It’s really rude to ignore your partner’s preferences and then expect compliments for doing something completely different.

“But oh my god. That’s not what she did. She made the cake he wanted, and happened to know he liked vanilla too and simply added some to the center. It was still chocolate with chocolate. She was very attentive.”

One user added: ‘I hope you get your wish. Complete control over birthday cakes when you order them from the supermarket bakery and only pay for them if they do well.

“Your girlfriend is off the hook now. She just learned that doing something sweet for you invites hostility, but getting you a cake from the bakery is preferable and she doesn’t have to do anything!’

Another added: ‘It was a chocolate cake… with chocolate frosting… except she put a thin layer of vanilla frosting in it… dude.

“She made you a chocolate cake, as requested, and had lots of chocolate frosting, as requested, but you got pouty because the filling on the inside (the thinnest layer) was vanilla?

‘Grow up. You’re the asshole and don’t expect any more cakes.’

One person noted, “He also said he ate half of it, but not the vanilla frosting, even though he has done that in the past. Why be so petty? Eat the cake. You can still say you don’t want vanilla, but doing so will make him look like a toddler.”

‘There’s so much here! I don’t know how many relationships you’ve had, but in ‘normal’ circles a companion… a lover… a friend… receives all the admiration for any attempt to acknowledge an event. Whether it’s Nana’s Devil’s Food Cake or a cupcake from 7-11. The attempt was made. If you can’t handle it with grace and gratitude, do her a favor and walk away,” someone else said.

‘And he did it in front of her children! What a bad example for them,” said one user.

One response read: “You’re the asshole. It’s hard to believe that a layer of vanilla surrounded by chocolate can make a grown man get so angry about his birthday cake that he complains and pouts about it, but here’s the proof.

‘What, are you 5 years old? To grow up.’

Someone else said: ‘She actually made you a chocolate cake with chocolate frosting. She just added something she thought would improve it. Did you specifically say to her, “I want this cake exactly without any substitutions?” You were incredibly ungrateful and rude.”

Another user said: ‘Dude she’s not your girlfriend anymore.’

While many users criticized the man, others agreed with him for standing his ground

While many users criticized the man, others agreed with him for standing his ground.

One person said: ‘Chocolate and vanilla are such conceptual opposites that there is no excusable reason to put vanilla filling in a cake that you knew the recipient wanted to be made entirely of chocolate. But also just shut up and break up with her later. It’s not a whole Reddit-like situation.”

Another user said: ‘I would have been angry.’

Someone else commented, “It feels patronizing like she’s trying to convey that he wants to teach him what to like, lol.

‘He’s not wrong at all. When we are together, you ask me what I want for my special day and I tell you, why not do or make that?

“It shows she’s not listening and doesn’t value what he’s trying to say. I respect the honesty. She tried to make it all about her when he showed how upset he was, and even then he gave grace,” someone else wrote.

Later, the 34-year-old revealed that he had texted his girlfriend and apologized, and was hoping to get an apology back, but he hasn’t heard from her yet.

Someone else said: ‘If she wants to make her own kind of cake why even ask for his opinion? When the tables are turned, you ladies will be the ones talking about the guy not loving her enough. She needs to grow up.”

Another user commented: ‘He made a very simple request. I could understand making changes or simplifying a more complicated/unreasonable/unrealistic/allergen cake request. She chose not to make the simple cake he requested. That’s asking for disappointment.’

‘He’s not wrong at all. She asked what he wanted, he told her. She did something else, asked if he was disappointed, of course he was. She sounds overly sensitive and doesn’t listen to basic feedback on how to achieve the outcome you want,” one person said.

Later, the 34-year-old revealed that he texted his girlfriend and apologized. He also said he was hoping to get an apology back, but he hasn’t heard from her yet.