Single Aussie asks for advice after the act of a date over lunch instantly gave her the “ick,” “Are my expectations too high?”
A single woman who got “the ick” when her date didn’t pay the bill wonders if she’s being “unreasonable.”
Ashleigh, from Brisbane, went on four dates with a man and “tried to find out” whether she liked him or not.
However, things changed when the two had a $40 casual lunch and he didn’t offer to pay the whole bill.
The brunette beauty turned to TikTok for advice, asking other women if the ick is “valid” or not.
“Am I asking too much for someone to pay for sushi when we’re on a date?” And these are the early days! This is when you’re still meant to impress me,” she said in a TikTok video.
Ashleigh, from Brisbane, recently started dating again but got ‘the ick’ when a man didn’t offer to pay the whole bill on their fourth date. “Am I asking too much for someone to pay for sushi when we have a date?” she asked
“Ladies, I need your advice on whether this is a valid ick or if my expectations are too high,” Ashleigh said in a video. Other women were quick to comment and most agreed
At the beginning of the video, Ashleigh said, “Ladies, I need your advice on whether this is a valid ick or if my expectations are too high.”
“I recently started dating again..it’s not for the weak, let me tell you,” she said with a sigh.
“I’ve been on a few dates with a guy and today is probably the fourth time we’ve hung out.”
At that point, she was still trying to figure out whether she liked the man or not.
The two went to get massages and paid for themselves, then went to get sushi for lunch.
However, things took a turn for the worse, it was time to pay and Ashleigh claims the man was eager to split the $40 bill.
‘Mind you, on the other dates we went we both paid. On the first date, we went out to dinner and then to the arcade — he got food, I got the arcade credits,” she said.
“Anyway, we tell the lady we’re going to split the bill and wrestle with it for a while. So I say to her, “If it’s easier, we can pay together.”‘
Afterward, Ashleigh paid for the food, so she never saw the man again.
“So I’ve got the ick now, and he walks me to my car and goes in for a kiss and I’m awkward like… making an excuse.” Am I just asking too much?’ she asked.
Many reacted quickly to the situation, calling the man’s behavior a ‘red flag’
Many reacted quickly to the situation, calling the man’s behavior a “red flag.”
‘Run baby! A real man will provide anyway. If he can’t even buy you a plate of food, he’s a waste of energy,” one woman commented.
‘Very valid ick. I might think differently if the meal was $100 or more,” another wrote.
No, certainly not too much to ask! This is the bare minimum and you deserve much more than that!’ said a third.
Another added, “RUN. I paid $70 one night and the next night dinner was $40 and he said do you want me to pay? I also ran. I hated that he even asked!’
Other women shared their own dating horror stories.
“My ex kept meticulous spreadsheets of the money I owed him. I was an unemployed student,” someone claimed.
“I am deeply sorry that I was on a situation ship with a loser who constantly ‘forgot’ his wallet. I feel so stupid right now,” said another.
However, some spoke a different tune and shared a different opinion.
One of them said, ‘I don’t think this is valid. It’s petty and pretty insignificant. Besides, you don’t like him. Now you know for sure when petty things bother you so much.’
So you expect a man to pay and be traditional, but are you a traditional woman? probably not,” said another.