Abbie Chatfield says she has an ‘anxious’ attachment style in relationships
Abbie Chatfield says she has an ‘anxious’ attachment style and it affects her relationships: ‘I’ve had some bad experiences’
She previously admitted that she only dated men for up to three months to avoid having a serious relationship.
And Abbie Chatfield has now opened up about why this is, saying she gets “anxiously attached” to her partners.
The reality TV star, 28, spoke about attachment styles with a relationship expert about her most recent It is much podcast.
According to attachment theory, there are four different attachment styles in relationships; secure, anxious, dismissive avoidant, and fearful avoidant.
“I think my natural baselines are jealously attached,” Abbie said.
Abbie Chatfield (pictured) revealed she gets anxiously attached to her partners in an episode of her It’s a Lot podcast this week
“I’ve had some horrible experiences, they all made me more anxious because they were dismissive and avoidant,” she explained.
“It’s almost like you left some rotten fruit in the fridge and you’re like, ‘OMG, I know there’s a rotten mango in that vegetable drawer,’ but I’m not going to touch it right now because it’s kind of gross.”
She continued, “And a few days later you say, ‘F**k that mango is still there and I know it’s worse.”
Abbie previously admitted that she only dated men for up to three months to avoid having a serious relationship
“They know you get angrier the less you talk to them,” she continued.
And then after weeks they say, “Oh f**k that mango fell apart, it’s CSI Miami in there.”
At the beginning of this year, Abbie revealed that she only dates men for three months straight to avoid getting into a relationship.
“I’ve had some horrible experiences, they all made me more anxious because they were contemptuously avoidant,” she explained on her podcast
Abbie, who split from her ex Konrad Bień-Stephen last September after being in an open relationship for a year, said she plans to remain single in 2023.
However, she is still open to “casual” dating multiple men.
“So I’m dating, but just very, very casually — and definitely with more than one person at a time, because I’m not… I don’t want a relationship,” she said.
“It actually gives me anxiety. The thought of it makes me want to run.”