I’m a dating coach, and here are three lies men tell women to give them false hope
A dating coach has revealed three lies he says men tell women when they want to raise false hopes that they will be in a relationship.
Jacob Lucas, who lives in the UK, says he has used his real-life methods to ‘help millions of people get the love life they’ve always wanted’
Not only does he work directly with clients, he also shares dating content on TikTok with his 750,000+ followers. He is also the author of the Her Dating Coach guide.
In a recent videocaptioned “Remember you deserve so much better than someone lying to you,” he outlined insincere remarks he says men sometimes use when dating.
And while advising viewers, Jacob said, “If a man does any of these things of yours, leave him because you deserve better than that.”
UK-based dating coach Jacob Lucas (pictured) has revealed three lies he says men tell women to give them false hopes of a relationship
Speaking in the video, he says, “I’m a professional dating coach. And these are three lies a man will tell you to give you false hope that you’re in a relationship.”
The first lie Jacob shares pertains to when people are unwilling to put labels on a relationship, even after seeing each other for a while.
He says, Number one, if you’ve been dating him for more than three months, and he says to you [that he’s not ready for a relationship yet]that is a lie.
And here’s why: If he dated his celebrity for three months and she said to him, “Do you want to date me?” he wouldn’t say no, absolutely not.
He would grab the opportunity with both hands.
“Remember, if after three months the guy still can’t decide if he wants to be with you, then he’s a very low man because it shows he’s very indecisive and you deserve someone so much better.”
His second tip relates to whether the words he says are in line with his actions.
Jacob explains, “Let’s go to number two – when he tells you he loves you, but he still doesn’t want to commit you.”
The dating coach told viewers that if someone they’re dating tells them one of these three things, they should move on, because they deserve better
“If he loves you, he will commit to you, and that’s a fact.
“The reason he said, ‘I love you,’ is to give you false hope and to string you along. You deserve so much better.’
On his way to his third and final point, Jacob said, “Number three. If you give someone boyfriend privileges, without them actually being your boyfriend, but they want to string you along, they’ll say it’s just not the right time in their life to be in a relationship with you.”
Viewers took to the comments section of the video to give their own take on what Jacob said.
Some posters suggested that there may be situations where these phrases can be used sincerely, and not as lies.
A number of viewers took to the video to share their thoughts, and many agreed with what Jacob said in the clip
One of them wrote, “But sometimes people have gotten out of a bad relationship and are afraid to get back into a new one, even though there are feelings involved and you spend a lot of time.”
Another agreed, adding, “I was on a “situationship” with him for 1 year until we became official and got into a relationship. He said all these things, but I waited and now we’re here.’
However, the vast majority agreed with the dating expert, with one saying, “You’ve brought back some memories. These are so right! Also, you forgot: you’re too good for me. I do not deserve you!’
A second added, “I feel like sometimes they say I love you so they get away with bad behavior.”
And a third added his own suggestion, writing, “my personal favorite “I don’t like putting a label on things.”