I just found out my boyfriend is married and he gave me herpes – should I tell his wife?

A woman who discovers that her boyfriend has given her a false identity and that the “fantastic gentleman” she thought she found is really married.

The American woman shared shocking details on the social media site Reddit after finding photos of the man’s wife while browsing Facebook.

She said that after she realized his work name tag was different from the name she knew him by, she started looking for more information — only to find that he was already married.

The discovery of his secret life has left her ‘sad and disappointed’, and at the same time she suspects that the man gave her herpes.

She asked users if she should outrun the man’s wife – and many agreed that was the right course of action, but others warned against bringing “more drama” into her life.

She said that after realizing his work name tag was different from the name she knew him by, she started looking for more information — only to discover he was already married

Her message read, “I have been dating a man in his 50s for a few months now. Fantastic gentleman, I really loved life.

“While I was on a business trip, I saw that his name tag had a different name than he gave me. I found loving pictures with a woman on Facebook.’

‘What do you suggest? For those saying to just dump him and not tell, he also gave me herpes. Surely she should know that? I’m so sad and disappointed with how people treat each other.’

The majority of people were sympathetic to the plight of the woman.

One user said, ‘Oh my gosh. I am so sorry. Yes, I would message the woman. Everything. Add screenshots etc. What she does with it is not your problem. Some women won’t do anything, they know he’s a cheater, but in the end it doesn’t matter. So after sending I would block them all. I don’t want to contact any of them.

‘Then take care of yourself. Take as long as it takes to grieve this betrayal and loss. I don’t know if you’re open to therapy, but sometimes a professional can help us process things faster and get through it as healthy as possible.’

Another woman advised her to be “kind” to herself.

The majority of people on Reddit were very sympathetic to the woman’s plight and urged her to tell the man’s wife, saying they would like to know in the same situation

She said, ‘Of course you are sad! What a shock, betrayal, and he gave you herpes. I am sure you are feeling so many emotions on so many levels right now. Be kind to yourself.’

And sharing details of a similar plight that eventually led to her divorce, another added: “Tell the woman in the most non-confrontational way possible. It may seem like she’s not doing anything, but she’ll have the information, and that’s what matters.”

However, some people weren’t so sympathetic – and warned of a backlash.

However, others warned that telling his wife could only cause more drama and not make her feel any better.

“Whether or not you tell her is absolutely your choice, in my experience it has caused me a lot of drama in my life,” said one person.

“It turned out to be a shoot the messenger scenario where the woman blamed me for the whole thing.

“After the third time this happened, I stopped telling you about cheaters. I feel sorry for the wives, but my mental health is already taking a beating when I find out about this. I don’t need someone’s wife to try to make me feel worse.’

Another said the man is an “expert liar” and wondered if the woman will believe “a stranger” over her husband.

“Maybe he’ll claim she gave him herpes. In any case, if they’re still sexually active together, she probably has it now too. It’s up to you, but I would move on,” she wrote.

And a fellow commentator advised the woman to “walk away and not look back,” saying, “Why bother the woman and cause you more drama?”