Expert Louanne Ward reveals why you should never be completely honest on a first date
Why your honesty is a turnoff: Relationship expert warns about big mistakes you make on a date
- Dating expert Louanne Ward warns against honesty
- She says it’s a turn-off to tell the whole truth about dates
- It is better to remain silent than to share too much
You shouldn’t be too honest on a first date, according to relationship experts, who believe that oversharing candidly is a major turn-off for most singles.
Louanne Ward explained that people don’t need to know if you snore, talk to your mom, or what your “body count” is.
“When it comes to dating, we’ve all been taught that honesty is the best policy, but there’s a difference between being honest and sharing too much,” she said.
“You must exercise your discretion.”
Louanne explained that every date is a screening exercise for both parties.
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Dating expert Louanne Ward says you shouldn’t be “too honest” on a first date
“Every question you answer and every piece of information you provide is data collected by your date… to find your dating score,” she said.
The information is judged against their subconscious list of pros and cons, she explained.
“The only way to get a second date is to have a high dateability score and you don’t get it by sharing useless information.”
Other facts she wouldn’t share include how many dates you’ve been on.
“You want to know if people are saying no to you or if they’re saying no to a lifetime of snoring or a potentially toxic family situation,” she said.
She said it’s important to stop and ask yourself why you’re talking and if there’s no good reason then you should stop.
“Keep your mouth shut and let the other person talk so you can collect the information,” she said.
“Reveal private information on a need-to-know basis and not every date needs to know the ins and outs of your life.”
And people were excited about the advice.
“As a person who has never been on the dating scene, I found this advice immensely helpful,” said one man.
While another woman agreed it was “very good advice” but didn’t reveal whether she had been on the receiving end of too high a share.