My fiancé wants me to wear red at our wedding because I’m not a virgin; she says white is ‘misleading’

A heartbroken bride-to-be has revealed that her fiancé wants her to wear red to her wedding because she is no longer a virgin.

The unnamed 27-year-old woman from the US shared her dilemma on Reddit‘s Off My Chest forum late last year.

In her post, the wife-to-be explained that she met her future husband when she was 21 years old and that the couple got engaged 10 months ago.

Giving her the assumed name of Ryan, the woman described how her partner had mostly left the planning of the wedding to her, giving her input “here and there”.

However, in November, the girlfriend said she came home from work one day and told her she didn’t think she should wear white that day, later revealing she felt it would be “misleading.”

She wrote: ‘This was totally foreign to me. Ryan is a very artistic guy, so I thought it was more about how the photos would turn out or something, but I’m determined to wear white.

“I told him this and I could see he was upset but he let it slide.”

Two weeks later, the woman picked up her white wedding dress, resulting in a huge argument.

Describing how he was “very upset”, he continued: “He asked me to see the dress I chose, but I said no because I wanted it to be a surprise for our wedding day.”

“He asked me to at least tell him what color I was, and when I said white, he had a fit.”

Unable to see what the problem was, she added: “I honestly don’t see why this was such a big deal, almost everyone wears white on their wedding day.”

After further questioning, the woman’s partner told her that he thought she should wear red to the wedding.

“He told me that brides only wear white when they are pure,” she added.

Explaining how this has been a problem for them in the past, the woman described how she had a long-term boyfriend at school while Ryan was a virgin when they met.

Although they were able to get over it, the bride-to-be wrote: ‘First year of our relationship and we hardly kept dating because of how insecure it felt.’

After their disagreement, the man asked his mother for her opinion, and was surprised when she sided with her partner in the argument.

She explained: ‘Two nights ago Ryan, his mum and I stood in our living room and discussed my sex life being shown in a dress.

‘His mom said he’s not a virgin anymore so maybe he should wear red too and she burst into tears.

“Ryan continues to claim that if I wore white I would be cheating all the guests and that it’s different for men.”

As a result, the woman is now wondering if she wants to go to the wedding, saying that the conversation had left her feeling “disgusted”.

She ended the post by writing, “He’s not even religious so I know this is just him still thinking about me losing my virginity at 18 before I met him.”

The post, which was shared on Reddit’s Wedding Shaming forum earlier this week, amassed more than 1,400 comments, with the vast majority of people urging her to call off the wedding.

One responded: ‘Look, if he’s this insecure after six years together, things aren’t going to get better.’ Is he going to mention your “impurity” in his wedding speech?

‘Is he going to try to take advantage of this in his marriage to get what he wants? Are you going to require paternity tests for your children?

‘I would seriously consider what you are signing up for. dude sounds bad [as f**k].’

Another added: ‘Girl run! Disrespectful, mean, immature, to name a few red flags.

‘Stay with the mom, throw the man away,’ added another. ‘Why is it the business of the guests if she is a virgin?’

“Consider yourself dodging a bullet,” said a third. He is not mature enough to marry.

Turning around the boyfriend argument, a fourth wrote: ‘I have a question: what color will your fiancé wear to tell the crowd about his sexual history?

‘Or do you think only a woman should have to reveal hers while hers is irrelevant or should it remain hidden? What if you go all the way and wear a giant sign around your neck?