Therapist Reveals 6 Reasons You May Experience Feelings Of Jealousy
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A therapist has revealed six reasons why you may experience feelings of jealousy that have nothing to do with insecurity.
Amy Tran, a therapist from Toronto, shared the information in a mail on Instagram, with his 239,000 followers.
Alongside the post, he wrote a caption describing emotions as “teachers.”
He added that jealousy is an emotion, going on to describe them as “definitely a loud teacher.”
The therapist continued: ‘However, most of us think that if someone is feeling jealous, it means they are insecure.
A therapist has revealed six reasons why people may experience feelings of jealousy that have nothing to do with insecurity (file image)
“Jealousy is actually a very complex emotion that can teach us many different lessons.”
He went on to explain that people may be prone to more intense feelings of jealousy in adulthood if, during childhood, they “felt ignored while others around them [them] it seemed that they were loved, recognized and recognized more than they were.
According to Amy, jealousy “can also stem from traumatic experiences you’ve been through, like being rejected or abandoned by someone you loved deeply.
She wrote: “You may start to question what is ‘wrong’ with you and other people or relationships that trigger this core belief that you are flawed or undeserving of love.”
According to the therapist, another reason people may feel jealous is related to grief.
She wrote: ‘What others have can also trigger feelings of grief over something you lost or never had.
“This may be a sign that you need to tune in and still need to process the loss of grief.”
He went on, highlighting another reason that can underlie feelings of jealousy, this time related to self-limiting beliefs.
Among the reasons people may experience feelings of jealousy cited by the therapist was feeling ignored as a child (file image)
Believing that you don’t deserve what others have is another factor cited by therapist Amy Tran as a reason people may be jealous of others (file image)
Amy explained: ‘Sometimes we can get caught up in self-limiting beliefs, like the belief that you don’t deserve XYZ.
“We project this belief onto others and believe that they don’t deserve these things either.”
Finally, in the title of the post, the therapist talked more about the emotion of jealousy.
He stressed that it is ‘normal’ for humans to experience this emotion and went on to talk about how important it is to view your own emotions with ‘compassion’.
Amy explained: ‘Jealousy is a NORMAL human emotion.
“Historically, it has been seen as an emotion that indicates that you want to protect something important to you.
So ask yourself: how can I nurture what is important to me, or fill an unmet need of mine, instead of letting jealousy rule my life? ‘
She added: ‘Growing up and self-reflection means looking at our own emotions with compassion and understanding, and jealousy is no exception. ‘
Numerous Instagram users took to the comment section of the post to share their own experiences of feeling jealous.
One wrote: “I can’t be loved and worthy enough if love doesn’t exist and I shouldn’t exist, that’s what my jealousy tells me.”
And another added: ‘YES! It’s not always about being insecure at all, it may be our experiences that shaped our responses to the world around us.
A third revealed that the post resonated strongly with them, saying, “I see myself here in every word.”
Meanwhile, a fourth said they had found a positive way to use emotion, writing: “I’ve learned to love my jealousy as it always shows me what I want most in my life.”
Instagram users took to the post’s comments section to discuss their own experiences with feelings of jealousy.