The guy I am dating keeps telling me about younger celebs he fancies

A woman has revealed that her new partner constantly tells her about the younger celebrities she likes and it makes her question the relationship.

Taking the British breeding platform momsnetthe woman explained that they are both 41, and he keeps talking about younger female celebrities he’s attracted to in their conversations, including 21-year-old Billie Eilish.

She admitted that it just “affected her” because she “doesn’t have the best opinion” of herself physically, of which he is aware.

Many were quick to comment with some claiming that he is trying to make her jealous and that she should “leave it.”

Others claimed that he is attempting a form of ‘denial’, which is an act of emotional manipulation to undermine someone’s trust and increase their need for the manipulator’s approval.

The woman explained: ‘I’ve been dating a guy for a very short time, I started texting before Christmas and we ran into each other shortly after. We have had 4 dates.

“During this time, I heard all about the famous women he likes. Quite. It’s not really relevant to mention, I don’t really think so, but I’m happy to be told that I’m being dumb.

“On one occasion, we texted about our night and he said he was watching a movie with a particular actress and was like ‘Oh shit, looks like I have a thing for X again!’ Which I thought was weird. Another one he’s talked about several times.

‘Last night there was great enthusiasm for this woman. So I said ‘yes I get you as her, you’ve told me before’, then he went on (as if trying to persuade me to almost agree) to talk about what an amazing actress she is, how he really respects her work/music and, overall how amazing it is.

Taking the parenting platform, the British woman explained that she strangely keeps bringing up female celebrities she’s attracted to in her conversations.

“We kind of had words about it, because while I completely understand that everyone finds other people attractive, it’s not something I’d really like to hear this often after such a short time! It made me feel a little shitty.

‘He flatters me, but this female celebrity talk just got to me. I don’t have the best opinion of myself physically and he knows it. Am I being a jerk? Please be honest.’

Most people rushed to defend the woman and agreed that her behavior was really strange and suggested that she should stop.

One person wrote: ‘He’s either incredibly immature or trying to make you jealous. I would not stay.

Most people rushed to defend the woman and agreed that her behavior was really strange and suggested that she should stop.

Another said: ‘Sounds to me like he’s trying to make you jealous or see what reaction he gets. It’s pathetic, I’d drop him now before you start being repulsed by him.

While another said: ‘This man sounds completely embarrassed. Why the hell did you want to see it after the first time this nonsense started?

‘I wouldn’t want to spend it with someone so socially inept talking about celebrity crushes. I would be ashamed to be with him and have anyone listen to this absolute scum. Throw it back.

Others suggested that it sounded like he was ‘denying’ to make her feel insecure and was playing a game.

One person wrote: ‘It’s a bit like denying, isn’t it? I think she’s putting you in your place. He knows what he is doing. He’d be out of there OP.’

Others suggested that he sounded as if he was ‘denying’ to make her feel insecure and that he was playing a game.

Another said: ‘No, I think he’s being insensitive. Mentioning that he finds someone attractive once shouldn’t bother you I think, it’s quite natural, but it sounds like he’s going through with it. I wonder how he would like it if you commented favorably on some male celebrity.

Or maybe it’s deliberate. For example, he may want to make you feel insecure so you’ll try harder to be the woman he likes over all those celebrities (impossible even if you were one of those celebrities yourself!), a kind of indirect denial, for so to say. Anyway, it’s pretty rude.

While a third wrote: ‘I would say this is a red flag for someone who may end up being emotionally abusive or controlling. Your comments are designed to undermine your trust.

“I think I’d have to make a comment to her, like it’s doubtful that she’s taking care of someone twice her age.” Then throw it away. What a bastard

‘Why are so many men so weird? I’m 50 years old and I couldn’t imagine telling someone that I like a 20 year old.

Explaining further, the original poster revealed that the man he’s dating is in his late 40s and the woman he’s hot for are young celebrities in their early 20s.

Explaining further, the original poster revealed that the man she’s dating is in his 40s and the woman she’s raving about are young celebrities in their 20s.

She said: ‘Sorry, there was something else! This actress is younger than us, around 15 years old, I said I tend not to find men much younger than me attractive and I certainly wouldn’t date one.

He didn’t like this. She then went on to talk about how it’s okay to find young people attractive and used Billie Eilish as an example (so there’s another one ha!)

‘She is young but I can see that she is very attractive’, etc., etc. And I just thought, what? She’s like 21! I couldn’t imagine liking a 21 year old girl, she’s only just out of her teens! (no offense to the 21 year old, just that I’m considerably older).

“I mean, we’re both 41 years old… I thought I time traveled 20 years during the conversation(s) tbh”

Many saw this as a massive red flag and pleaded with the woman to call it quits.

Many women saw this as a massive red flag and pleaded with the original poster to drop it.

One person wrote: ‘RUN AWAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY! A man in his forties who gets obsessively excited about a woman half her age? That’s horrible.

While another said: ‘Is he Paul Breach? I don’t care what a pp said, a 41 year old man going crazy over a woman half his age is vom when he’s barely out of his teens.

’51 and 31, different. Life experience, and the youngest person looks like an adult, not a child.’

A third wrote: ‘Oh absolutely not. This is incredibly embarrassing and disrespectful. Don’t forget, this is him in dating mode. Imagine what he will be like when he tries less.