Valerie Bertinelli posts a clip on social media about finding texts while practicing dry January

Valerie Bertinelli remembers coming across shocking text messages and being called ‘fat and lazy’ as she tries to heal from the pain of divorce.

Valerie Bertinelli gave fans some insight into her doomed marriage to now-ex-husband Tom Vitale in a series of Instagram posts this week.

The 62-year-old actress referenced shocking text messages she saw and opened up about the vicious things she’s called in past relationships.

These revelations came at the end of his month-long dry January campaign during which he abstained from alcohol. Bertinelli has also said that the cleaning has given her the ability to observe his mental health.

Info: Valerie Bertinelli gave fans some insight into her doomed marriage to now-ex-husband Tom Vitale in a series of Instagram posts this week

In his most recent clip, Bertinelli jumped on a viral trend, mouthing, ‘My God, my God, why did you do that?’ before adding, ‘I don’t know’.

Written on the screen during the audio part of ‘Oh my God’ was ‘Why did you let them stay after you found the texts?’

However, it’s unclear exactly which text messages the mother-of-one was referring to.

The One Day at a Time actress captioned the short clip with three melting face emojis.

Texts?  The 62-year-old actress referenced shocking text messages she saw and opened up about the vicious things she's called in past relationships.

Texts? The 62-year-old actress referenced shocking text messages she saw and opened up about the vicious things she’s called in past relationships.

Divorced: Her divorce from Vitale was officially finalized in November after 11 years of marriage, stating on Twitter at the time:

Divorced: Her divorce from Vitale was officially finalized in November after 11 years of marriage, declaring on Twitter at the time: “I’m officially divorced!” (pictured 2011)

Her divorce from Vitale was officially finalized in November after 11 years of marriage, declaring on Twitter at the time: “I’m officially divorced!”

The Golden Globe winner could be seen in a short selfie video that was easily filmed with her phone’s camera while holding a joyous smile on her face.

Valerie married businessman Tom in 2011, but after 11 years of marriage, the actress filed for a legal separation in November 2021. In May 2022, she went a step further and filed for divorce, citing “irreconcilable differences.”

The Hot in Cleveland star was forced to pay more than $2 million to finalize the divorce.

Throughout the last month, while practicing dry January, Bertinelli has talked about the terrible things that called her in past relationships.

Dry January: Over the past month, while practicing Dry January, Bertinelli has talked about the terrible things that called out to her in past relationships.

Dry January: Over the past month, while practicing Dry January, Bertinelli has talked about the terrible things that called out to her in past relationships.

Coming to the end: In her most recent update, Valerie said that even though she was on her last dry day of January, she's not sure if she'd be drinking again anytime soon.

Coming to the end: In her most recent update, Valerie said that even though she was on her last dry day of January, she’s not sure if she’d be drinking again anytime soon.

“I’ve been yelled at so many times and told how fat and lazy I am,” she said in a video she posted to her Instagram Story on Monday. ‘I realize… that it was someone who was projecting onto me what they needed to project onto me, but my part in all of that was believing it, and I don’t believe it anymore. But still it doesn’t prevent feelings and pain from arising.’

Regarding his own mental health, he added: ‘I need to feel. Because what he used to do was try to calm them down or at least try to ignore them with food or alcohol. And I don’t want to do that anymore. Wow, so many feelings coming up.’

Bertinelli also admitted that he uses therapy to solve many of his problems.

In her most recent update, posted after her clip referencing the texts, Valerie said that even though she was on her last day of dry January, she’s not sure she’ll be drinking again anytime soon.

“I might have a cocktail on Saturday because I have a dinner date, but other than that, no, I think I’m going to keep it up for a while,” he said.

'I might have a cocktail': 'I might have a cocktail on Saturday because I have a dinner date, but other than that, no, I think I'm going to stick with it for a while,' he said.

‘I might have a cocktail’: ‘I might have a cocktail on Saturday because I have a dinner date, but other than that, no, I think I’m going to stick with it for a while,’ he said.