Is it okay to have sex on the first date? The therapist says that it can be beneficial for the relationship.
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Why first-date sex is a good idea: Relationship expert slams ‘old-fashioned’ mindset, urges singles to start right away
- A relationship expert says it can be beneficial to have sex on the first date
- Rachel Wright is a sexual, relationship and mental health therapist.
- She said that having sex right away can quickly determine if the couple is compatible.
- Men were more likely than women to go on a first date
A relationship expert has defended people who have sex on the first date, with nearly half of Australians admitting to doing so right away.
Relationship, sex and mental health therapist Rachel Wright, of New York, said there is no “right time” to have sex with a new partner and doing it on the first date can quickly determine whether you want to continue the relationship.
according to a study49 percent of the participants said they slept with someone on the first date, and those who didn’t said they preferred to make an emotional connection before getting into bed.
Relationship expert Rachel Wright said there are benefits to having sex on the first date, as a new study found that nearly half of participants said they had the deed right away.
Rachel defines sex as any “meaningful experience of pleasure” and said outdated ideals can create embarrassment for those who want to be intimate on first meeting.
‘First date sex can be beneficial… if you want to have sex on the first date. Here’s the thing: There is no “right time” to have sex,” she said.
“The concepts of ‘don’t give away free milk’ and ‘they won’t like me anymore if I put it down too quickly’ are old and outdated and can create a lot of embarrassment for people of all genders.”
The relationship expert said that for some people having sex right away is helpful in determining whether they want to go on a second date.
She added for others you feel completely out of reach because you need to have an established emotional connection with the person before you can have sex.
“Anywhere you fall on this spectrum is perfectly fine, and it’s recommended to talk to the person you’re dating about it,” she said.
A study by the adult store Love Honey found that nearly one in two people admit to having sex on the first date.
49 percent of those who participated in the study said they slept with someone on the first date, but those who abstained said they preferred to make an emotional connection before getting into bed.
The research showed that men are more willing to hook up right away with just under 60 percent saying they have.
However, women were more reserved with 43 percent of female participants saying they had jumped in bed with someone on date number one compared to 42 percent saying they had not.
Millennials and Gen-Xers were found to be more promiscuous than their Gen Z or boomer counterparts.
People between the ages of 18 and 24 and over the age of 55 were the least likely to sleep with someone on the first date with just 31 percent and 42 percent saying they had done so previously, respectively.
Rachel said it’s important for people to be honest with themselves and the person they’re meeting for the first time about their expectations.
“If you’ve been texting for two days before the date, it might not show up,” he said.
“But if you’ve been texting for two months and trying to set up a date and it’s finally happening, you may have already talked about sex.”